conflict

Timeless Tips for Sleeping Well

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Research indicates that a sleepless night is associated with greater relationship conflict the following day.

Making Sure Emotional Flooding Doesn’t Capsize Your Relationship

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Read how emotional flooding ignites your fight-or-flight mode and ways to avoid this so you don't derail your conflict management.

Finding Common Ground: The Harvard Negotiation Project

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Instead of suffering in your relationship, you can use a simple approach to change the nature of negotiation.

Emotional Attraction: Maintaining Connection in Conflict Discussions

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Conflict can result in flooding and stonewalling. However, how you repair can build emotional attraction.

How to Practice Self-Soothing

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Remember: the ability to self-soothe is one of the most important skills you can learn. Practicing it can help you not only in romantic relationships, but in all other areas of your life.

The Four Horsemen: The Antidotes

The Gottman Institute

Luckily, for every Horseman of the Apocalypse, there is an antidote.

The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Being able to identify the Four Horsemen in your conflict discussions is a necessary first step to eliminating them and replacing them with healthy, productive communication patterns.

How to Fight Smarter: Soften Your Start-Up

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Softening the start-up of your arguments and complaints is crucial to resolving relationship conflicts.

Predicting Divorce From The First 3 Minutes of Conflict Discussion

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Drs. Carrère and Gottman found that the startup of the conflict discussion was key to predicting divorce or marital stability.

The Research: Patterns of Marital Conflict Predict Children’s Internalizing and Externalizing Behaviors Part II

Dr. Ellie Wilde

It is not the child’s temperament that predicts marital conflict, but rather the type of marital conflict that predicts a child’s temperament.

The Research: Patterns of Marital Conflict Predict Children’s Internalizing and Externalizing Behaviors

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Parents whose conflicts are characterized by mutual hostility often produce children who are unable to wait their turn.

Physiological Self-Soothing

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Try something that may feel totally foreign in the heights of your distress: breathe.

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