Relationship resources for couples from the Gottman Institute: relationship and marriage advice, tips, products and a network of therapists. If you are just dating, newlyweds or newly committed, empty nesters, considering divorce or just looking for ideas to improve communication with your partner, the Gottmans 40 years of research can help.
How satisfied are you and your partner in your relationship? Are you curious about which areas need improvement? Get a full analysis of your relationship health and a tailored digital relationship plan to help with your connection. Check out the NEW Gottman Relationship Adviser. The world’s first complete relationship wellness tool for couples takes the guesswork out of improving your relationship.
Developed based on the popular Gottman Method, using proven assessment and therapy methods created by world-renowned psychologists Drs. John and Julie Gottman, the Relationship Adviser is a complete approach to relationship wellness. With the ability to complete it alone or with a partner, this unparalleled, accessible system to relationship building is proven to help you heal and strengthen your connection, right from the comfort of your own home.
For an in-depth analysis of your relationship health check out the Gottman Assessment, a virtual relationship evaluation tool for couples.
Check out the free relationship quiz for couples.
The Gottman Relationship Coach is an inspiring and educational multimedia experience designed to enhance the wellbeing of relationships. Let Drs. John and Julie Gottman guide you through science-based, relationship skill-building tools in a series of interactive videos, exercises, and card decks designed to inspire healthy communication and deeper connection.
All New! Gottman Relationship Adviser
The Gottman Relationship Adviser, the world’s first complete relationship wellness tool for couples takes the guesswork out of improving your relationship. Measure your relationship health with a research-based self-assessment, then receive a tailored digital relationship plan proven to heal and strengthen your connection.
The Gottman Relationship Adviser was developed using proven assessment and therapy methods created by world-renowned psychologists Drs. John and Julie Gottman. With the ability to complete it alone or with a partner, this unparalleled, accessible system to relationship building is proven to help you heal and strengthen your connection, right from the comfort of your own home. The Gottman Method has helped millions of couples build happy, healthy lifelong partnerships. What are you waiting for? Get started today!
Enriching Your Sex Life
Whether you are looking for ways to increase satisfaction or completely reset your sex life, the Gottmans are here to share the secrets to amazing sex with you—and they may not be what you’d expect.
Dr. John Gottman’s research shows that in order for couples to have great sex, they must feel physically and emotionally safe, and they must have a strong foundation of friendship and closeness. Without these pieces, sex may be lacking or unsatisfactory in the relationship.
All About Love
What if you could have all the tools you need to connect with your partner and love them more deeply? What if you could learn from the experts on love to build a meaningful, full life with your significant other? Well, now you can!
All About Love combines three of our most popular products at a special price: How to Make Your Relationship Work gives you the fundamentals of the Gottman Method and more. Loving Out Loud teaches you how to enhance fondness and admiration to love your partner better. Building a Life Together will help you both discover what trust and commitment look like in your unique relationship.
All About Conflict
This bundle combines two of our most popular products around conflict at a special price: Dealing With Conflict and Making Up After an Argument.
These programs, designed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman, feature videos, exercises, and techniques to help you and your partner learn strategies to manage flooding, learn how to improve conflict conversations, and discover the transformative power of repair.
All About Intimacy
Rediscover intimacy in your relationship with the All About Intimacy bundle, containing three of our bestselling Coach products: Enriching Your Sex Life, Feeling Seen and Heard, and Loving Out Loud.
Learn how to grow closer to your partner and strengthen your physical connection, discover new ways to cherish and make time for each other, and acquire tools to enhance the fondness and admiration in your relationship.
Building a Life Together
You’ve decided to spend forever together. Congratulations!
Whether you’re committing to each other after a long time of casual dating or you’ve just swept each other off your feet, committing to each other is a big step, but don’t worry. With more than 40 years of research into how relationships work, the Gottmans are here to give you the tools you need for happily ever after.
Feeling Seen and Heard
Learn how to become a better listener and how to Turn Towards your partner
Do you feel seen, heard, and valued by your partner? One of the many benefits of a happy and healthy relationship is the feeling that you have someone who really “gets” you. But everyone has areas they could improve on, or be more intentional in their relationship. That’s what Feeling Seen and Heard, from the Gottman Relationship Coach, is all about.
Loving Out Loud
Exercises and videos to help you speak, show, and share your love.
Take your relationship from “meh” to marvelous. Change up your routines and get into the habit of loving out loud—let the Gottmans show you how. In this collection of videos, exercises, and conversation starters, Drs. John and Julie Gottman will guide you through science-based, relationship skill-building tools.
How to Make Your Relationship Work
Research-based Foundations for a Lifetime of Love.
If you’re feeling disconnected from your partner and feel like you don’t know how to make your relationship work and don’t know where to start, you’ve come to the right place. In these programs you will learn how do we predict the future of a relationship, how to build a Sound Relationship House and what to do when the destructive Four Horsemen enter your relationship.
Dealing with Conflict
Change your conflict conversations.
In “Dealing with Conflict” Drs. John and Julie Gottman guide you through a series of exercises, concepts, and communication skills that can truly change your conflict conversations. With these new skills, going from arguing to understanding is possible. Conflict is inevitable, combat is optional.
Making Up After an Argument
Conflict is normal in relationships.
So you just had a major argument. Now what? First of all, don’t worry. Conflict is normal in relationships. The key to lasting love is how you manage conflict when it occurs. In the latest program in the Gottman Relationship Coach, Drs. John and Julie Gottman will guide you through the science behind conflict and what you can do to course-correct. You’ll learn how to stop conflict from spiraling by identifying the signs of Flooding, what repair attempts look like in your relationship, and what triggers you and your partner.
Based upon Dr. Gottman’s four decades of research with thousands of couples, our workshops are designed for couples of every age, ability, and orientation. You will learn practical skills to improve the friendship in your relationship and help you manage conflict in a positive way. Start with The Art and Science of Love and deepen your understanding at The Art and Science of Love 2.
Discover our popular relationship books and other resources for couples, including the New York Times bestseller, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, which has sold over one million copies in more than a dozen languages.
Gottman Love Notes
Love Notes is a research-based newsletter featuring the latest and greatest from The Gottman Institute.
Find a Therapist
Use the Gottman Referral Network to easily find a Gottman-trained specialist near you.
Quick reminders, tips, and skill-sharpeners to improve your relationship
The new Gottman Connect platform brings the assessment process online and provides tools to use through the therapeutic process.