Thanks to a combination of sobriety, introspection, therapy, and Kate’s support, I’m feeling more comfortable showing up authentically both inside and outside this relationship.

Everything I thought I knew about myself, my faith, my friendships, and my family was put on tilt when I decided to be true to who I am and pursue that woman.

Betrayal trauma hits the foundation of the person and the relationship—trust.

Sometimes, we are a hetero couple, sometimes a gay couple, but most of the time we live outside of the established labels altogether.

Identifying what I needed helped release and transform vicarious trauma into post-traumatic growth.

Commitment doesn’t inoculate us against marriage atrophy. In fact, some would argue that it’s the cause of it. But it’s the thing that keeps us in and has us weather the droughts that are an inevitable part of a long marriage.