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Brené Brown’s Atlas of the Heart: Defensiveness and Flooding

The Gottman Institute

From her latest book, Brené discusses these core Gottman Method concepts

‘It’s Not My Fault!’: Why Defensiveness is Damaging

Cheryl Fraser

Don’t get defensive. Do this instead.

Drs. John and Julie Gottman on How Not to Ruin Your Relationship

The Gottman Institute

Listen to the Gottmans discuss the big and small things you can do to have a happy relationship

What Causes Contempt in Relationships

Jinashree Rajendrakumar

How to spot contempt and what to do when it shows up

Types of Criticism: Expressing Concern or Complaint without Harm

Kimberly Panganiban

Learn how to identify the first of the four horsemen

Get Back on Track During Conflict

The Gottman Institute

Turn arguments around and manage conflict with a few simple phrases.

How to Build Love Maps

The Gottman Institute

What does it look like to stay curious about your partner?

What are Your Core Beliefs and Needs? (and why it’s important to identify them)

Elizabeth Earnshaw

When it comes to conflict, knowing the issue underneath the problem is half the battle.

Managing Conflict through Friendship

Sinead Smyth

If you want to have better fights, be better friends.

Blame, Resentment, and Negative Sentiment Override

Jinashree Rajendrakumar

"Why does my partner hate me?"

The Dark Side of Anger: What Every Couple Should Know

Robert Navarra

It is easier to handle those emotions when we understand what is underneath them.

“Is It Ever Okay to Argue in Front of the Kids?”

Melissa Benaroya

It’s not a matter of “should you argue” but “how you argue.”

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