The Four Horsemen: Self-Soothing Weekend Homework Assignment
On Wednesday's posting, we promised to follow our cold, hard facts about stonewalling with a healthy alternative. The first step of overcoming stonewalling is to stop the discussion.
The Four Horsemen: Stonewalling Part II
On Monday we introduced Stonewalling, Dr. Gottman’s fourth and fina horseman. It is our goal this week to help you understand this particularly destructive communication style and learn to manage it.
The Four Horsemen: Stonewalling
Rather than confronting the issue, someone who is stonewalling will be totally unresponsive, making evasive maneuvers such as tuning out, turning away, acting busy, or engaging in obsessive behaviors.
The Four Horsemen: Contempt Weekend Homework Assignment
Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we would like to continue Wednesday's discussion on Fondness and Admiration, which are two of the most crucial elements in a rewarding and long-lasting romance.
Four Horsemen: Contempt Part II
Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we would like to continue Monday's discussion on Horseman #3 Contempt.
The Four Horsemen: Contempt
Contempt is the worst of the four horsemen. In Dr. Gottman’s four decades of research, he has found it to be the #1 predictor of divorce.
The Four Horsemen: Defensiveness & Blind Spots
Happy Friday! We hope you have learned a lot about Defensiveness and its antidote in this week's postings. Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we would like to take the opportunity to share an excerpt from an article which cites our research.
The Four Horsemen: Defensiveness Part II
In healthy relationships, partners don’t get defensive when discussing an area of conflict. According to Dr. Gottman, they instead take responsibility for their role in the issue and express an interest in their partner's feelings.
The Four Horsemen: Defensiveness
Defensiveness is really a way of blaming your partner.
The Four Horsemen: Criticism Weekend Homework Assignment
Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we would like to give you the opportunity to practice what you’ve learned about criticism this week.
The Four Horsemen: Criticism Part II
Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we would like to continue Monday's discussion on criticism.
The Four Horsemen: Criticism
This week on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we will continue The Four Horsemen series by digging deeper into the first horseman of the apocalypse: criticism.