D is for Defensiveness
Defensiveness is a wicked game. But it’s winnable.
Help! Someone Told Me I’m Stonewalling
Stonewalling is dramatically misunderstood. It is not the icy indifference that it might appear to be on the surface.
Brené Brown’s Atlas of the Heart: Defensiveness and Flooding
From her latest book, Brené discusses these core Gottman Method concepts
‘It’s Not My Fault!’: Why Defensiveness is Damaging
Don’t get defensive. Do this instead.
What Causes Contempt in Relationships
How to spot contempt and what to do when it shows up
Stonewalling vs The Silent Treatment: Are They The Same?
What’s the difference between stonewalling and the silent treatment?
Types of Criticism: Expressing Concern or Complaint without Harm
Learn how to identify the first of the four horsemen
Red Flag/Green Flag: What to Look for When You’re Dating
How can you tell if someone is right for you?
‘Are We Headed for Divorce?’
Couples that divorce have a few things in common...
4 Conflict Styles that Hurt Your Relationship
Learn how to navigate conflict in a healthy way.
Rebuilding After Infidelity
Research shows couples can move forward after an affair. But how?
This One Thing is the Biggest Predictor of Divorce
If a couple can revive their fondness and admiration for each other, they are more likely to approach conflict resolution as a team.