Discover The Art and Science of Love at our world-renowned weekend workshop for couples created by Drs. John and Julie Gottman and see for yourself why millions of couples worldwide have benefited from the Gottman Method.

  • 2 days filled with engaging presentations and experiential activities designed to confirm, strengthen, or restore your love
  • For couples of every age, ability, and sexual orientation
  • Shown to achieve results similar to those of 6 months of marital therapy
  • Has produced positive results for 94% of those who attend

Based on over 40 years of research with thousands of couples, The Art and Science of Love workshop will give you new insights and research-based skills that can dramatically improve the intimacy and friendship in your relationship and help you manage conflict in a healthy, positive way.


Workshop Description

Our curriculum is developed from 40 years of research with more than 3,000 couples. It’s grounded on what actually works in relationships that are happy and stable, not idealistic notions or anecdotal evidence of what a relationship should be. On day one, you will learn how to build friendship in your relationship and express feelings of respect and affection. On day two, you will learn how to manage conflict and communicate effectively.

positive results

The workshop has produced positive results for 94% of those who attend based on exit surveys, but don’t just take our word for it. Click here to read one real couple’s story, “15 Favorite Moments from our Gottman Weekend Workshop.”

If you’ve already attended, you can refresh your skills and deepen your understanding of the Gottman Method at The Art and Science of Love 2 advanced workshop for couples.

What will I learn?

You and your partner will learn how to foster respect, affection, and closeness in your relationship. You will build and share a deeper connection with each other. You’ll learn how to keep conflict discussions calm, how to break through conflicted gridlock, and how to strengthen and maintain the gains in your relationship.

Other workshop topics include:

  • Learn to recognize the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse and what to do if they are attacking your marriage
  • Identify your relationship’s specific strengths and how to build on them
  • Learn about the effects of physiological flooding and how it may affect conflict resolution
  • Use the Fondness and Admiration System to renew respect and care for one another
  • Create an Emotional Bank Account that you can draw upon in times of stress
  • Develop your problem-solving skills, including the 6 skills for effective conflict resolutions
  • Find out how you can make your dreams and aspirations come true for you, your partner, and your relationship

Who is the workshop for?

This workshop is designed for ALL couples in a committed relationship. You do not need to be married. If you have a strong relationship, this workshop will provide you with insights and tools to foster further closeness, friendship, and trust. If your relationship is distressed, this two-day workshop will provide you with a greater understanding of your relationship and a road map for repair.

No public discussion or disclosure is involved. All work is done as a couple and Gottman-trained therapists are available to support one-on-one during exercises. This educational workshop may not be appropriate for couples dealing with addiction, domestic violence, or other serious relationship issues. In those situations, we recommend seeking counseling with a Gottman-trained therapist.

What is included in the price?

In addition to a greater understanding of how to build friendship, manage conflict, and create shared meaning in your relationship, you will receive The Art and Science of Love box set, which contains:

The Art and Science of Love DVD Home Study

  • 7 Card Decks
    • Love Map
    • Opportunity
    • Open-Ended Questions
    • Rituals of Connection
    • Salsa (Mild, Medium, Hot)
  • 2 Couples Workbooks
  • Repair Checklist
  • Aftermath of a Fight Booklet

Workshop Reviews

More than 1,500 couples complete The Art and Science of Love workshop every year in Seattle, and many hundreds more complete the workshop around the world either in-person with Certified Gottman Therapists or at home with the DVD set. Here’s what some of them have said about the workshop.

“I had put my marriage on cruise control. I had gotten lost and didn’t stop to ask for directions along the way. I thought I could work it out for myself. How different my married life would have been if I could have gone to a workshop like this 20 years ago!”

– Anonymous evaluation from Chicago, IL

“When our daughter decides to get married, our wedding gift to her and her chosen will be a week-end at one of the Gottman’s couples workshops. I can think of no better way to give a couple a good send-off on their marriage.”

– Anonymous evaluation from Cedar Rapids, IA

“Excellent! Very practical and immediately useful. We would like to send our entire family to your seminars.”

– Anonymous evaluation from Seattle, WA


Additional Workshop Information

Gottman-trained Professionals

All Gottman-trained professionals are now eligible for a $250 discount to attend The Art and Science of Love workshop in Seattle with Drs. John and Julie Gottman. A personal workshop experience is beneficial for your professional and personal toolkit, and will help you to better integrate Gottman interventions into your work with couples. Click here for further details.

Microsoft Employees

You are eligible to attend The Art and Science of Love workshop in Seattle with no out-of-pocket expense. Your registration fee is paid for by your EAP plan through Wellspring Family Services. Please click here for further details.

Armed Forces

It is an honor to support the military and their families. All active-duty military and veterans are eligible to receive a $200 discount to attend The Art and Science of Love workshop. You must show military identification on the 1st day of training.

Frequently Asked Questions

  • The Art and Science of Love has been shown to achieve results similar to those of 6 months of marital therapy and 94% of previous workshop attendees have reported positive results after attending this groundbreaking weekend workshop.

  • Yes. Drs. John and Julie Gottman are the presenters for The Art and Science of Love couples workshops in Seattle, WA, unless otherwise indicated.

  • Couples of all ages, incomes, races, nationalities, professions, religions, abilities, and orientations attend our workshops. Couples attend who already have a strong, healthy relationship, and couples attend to repair relationship damage and get back on track. Parents sometimes attend who have decided to end their relationship but want to do so in a way that doesn’t negatively impact their children, and receive skills to become healthy co-parents moving forward. We welcome all couples who want to work on making their relationship stronger.

  • We strongly encourage all couples in committed relationships to attend, whether you are dating, engaged and seeking premarital preparation, not married and living together, or committed to a potentially life-long relationship but don’t plan to get married—this workshop is for you!

  • Yes. We strongly encourage attending our workshop as premarital preparation.

  • Yes. We welcome all couples. While some of the workshop language is heteronormative, our curriculum does include research data on same-sex relationships.

  • Per couple.

  • Yes. We have standard discounts for military couples and Gottman-trained professionals. We also offer partial scholarships to qualifying couples. Our staff will be happy to discuss these options with you.

  • Yes. Gift certificates are available upon request.

  • Sorry, no. Our workshops are specifically designed to be interactive and experiential for couples only.

  • We believe that it is important for all individuals to learn the basics of how relationships work based on our scientific research. Many individuals have found that a good place to start is by sharing some of the research on our website with their partners. We have videos of Dr. John Gottman covering our concepts of the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse (with Anderson Cooper), the Magic Relationship Ratio, and Making Marriage Work, all of which introduce the most important concepts that Drs. John and Julie Gottman will present at the Art and Science of Love workshop. You can also visit the Gottman Relationship Blog for more information on our methods, and you can look through our Research Overview page. For a preview of the kinds of exercises you’ll do at the workshop, you can download our free Gottman Card Decks app.

  • No problem. Couples sit as an audience during Drs. John and Julie Gottman’s lectures, but we provide lots of extra square footage for privacy while couples engage in the workshop exercises. Our Certified Gottman Therapists are available to work one-on-one with couples who desire support and assistance during exercises. There is no group work, and no mandatory sharing.

  • No. Couples sit as an audience during the lectures, but for couples’ individual exercises we provide lots of extra space and seating for you to engage in those exercises with plenty of privacy. Couples will not be asked to publicly participate in any exercises in front of the audience, nor will any of your exercises be publicly disclosed by The Gottman Institute in any form.

  • Our highly experienced team of Certified Gottman Therapists are on hand at every workshop. These therapists are available to work one-on-one with you during the exercises. Couples are not required to use clinical help, but we strongly encourage using this resource while you have the opportunity.

  • The venue, weather, time of year, and several other factors affect the size of each workshop. The Seattle workshops with Drs. John and Julie Gottman tend to average between 300-350 couples. Local workshops presented by trained Certified Gottman Therapists may offer smaller group sizes. All workshop leaders use The Art and Science of Love curriculum designed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman. These workshops are offered independent of The Gottman Institute.

  • Yes. Couples who attend our workshop tend to fall into two categories: enhancement and repair. We applaud couples who are wise enough to attend the workshop for enhancement purposes. Our brains are more open to new learning when we are not stressed out, and our workshop is designed with plenty of humor and romance, so enhancement couples have a terrific time while learning. Feedback from both enhancement and repair couples indicates that the couples workshop is very beneficial.

  • Sometimes. While each situation is unique, we do have many couples attend the workshop who are separated or have begun divorce proceedings. These couples continue to report that the workshop was very helpful to them. Our staff will discuss the specifics of your situation with you during the registration process to see if it is appropriate for you.

  • There are no prerequisites to attending a couples workshop. The workshop is self-contained and is appropriate even if you’ve never heard of Dr. John Gottman and his work. Some find it helpful to peruse the information and videos on our website, but even this is not required.

  • No. While we do not recommend any specific childcare service, some couples have reported positive results with care.com.

  • Yes, if you are coming from out of town. Our staff will provide hotel information for each venue. If you are local, you can certainly go home. However, we recommend you try to preserve your focus on your relationship throughout the entire weekend, if possible. Try not to go home to kids, jobs, neighbors, pets, all the daily distractions and stressors we face. Try to keep the weekend just for the two of you.

  • Yes. While Drs. John and Julie Gottman only present The Art and Science of Love in Seattle, Certified Gottman Couples Workshop Leaders offer workshops for couples around the world. Please be sure to check workshop locations and presenters for workshops in your area.

  • No. We recognize that newborns spend a lot of time sleeping, and it is difficult to be away from them during the first couples months. However, you will not be able to focus entirely on your relationship and it can be a distraction for other couples.

  • No. The arrangement we have with Microsoft is that they have agreed to allow employees to use a category of their benefits to cover the cost of the workshop. Unfortunately we do not have arrangements with any other employers.

  • Yes. You can receive 14 CEs through R Cassidy. There is a $40 charge that is payable directly to them. Visit here for additional details.