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What Are We Fighting For?

Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Gottman

Excerpted from FIGHT RIGHT copyright © 2024 by Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD and John Gottman, PhD. Used with permission from Harmony Books, an imprint of Random House, a division of Penguin Random House LLC, New York. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.

Overcoming Gridlock This Holiday Season

Sanaa Hyder

Gridlock. The word itself conjures up the image of sitting in your car for hours while traffic around you barely inches forward. The sound of incessant honking surrounds you as the frustration of being stuck when you have somewhere to be builds.

Do You Know the Story Beneath Your Relationship to Emotions?

Sabrina Walters

There’s an untapped power to understanding why you manage your emotions the way you do — and how that might differ greatly from your partner.

Co-Parenting During the Holidays

Terry Gaspard

It is challenging to co-parent during the holidays but making your child/ren the priority and creating new rituals of connection can help make it better.

Preventing Roommate Syndrome

Kendra Han

Based on the webinar Preventing Roommate Syndrome: Balancing Love and Everyday Life presented by Genesis Games, LMHC on October 12, 2023.

Your Attachment Style Influences the Success of Your Relationship

Marni Feuerman

The quality of our early attachments profoundly influences our relationships later in life.

Challenging Behaviors in Couples Therapy: Gaslighting

Kendra Han

Gaslighting is a challenging behavior in couples therapy. It is a form of manipulation that leads one partner to doubt their own experiences.

Perpetual Problems Around Finances

Kari Rusnak

Flooding and Conflict Avoidance

Kari Rusnak

A good relationship includes having fights.

Running Headlong Into Heartbreak

Kerry Lusignan

The Gottmans and Brené Brown give us a map—a macro perspective of the wilderness of our hearts, and the wildness of love.

The Criticism Defensiveness Cycle

Kendra Han

Turn Towards Your Partner Instead of a Screen

Nicole Schiener

A Happier Relationship Starts Today

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