conflict

We Agreed. Why Are We Having This Argument Again?

Alexander Elguren

In relationship conflict, we often start persuading before we’ve finished listening. Understanding the three stages of a fight can change how we handle the next one.

Who Has to Calm Down First?

Alexander Elguren

One partner wants to keep talking. The other can’t take in another word. How couples can practice emotional regulation when they disagree about how to disagree.

When Your Partner Seems Emotionally Unavailable

Alexander Elguren

You are not imagining the distance. You may be misreading it.

Is It Weaponized Incompetence?

Alexander Elguren

Your Partner Offers to Help. You End Up With One More Job.

When the Fight Never Ends: Why Most Couple Conflict Isn’t Meant to Be Solved

Mac Stanley Cazeau

Most couples conflict can't be solved and that's ok. Your relationship can still be healthy and successful- here's how.

The Four Horsemen in Action, and What to Do Instead

Alex Spangler

Learn what these destructive dynamics look like in everyday life and how to communicate differently.

This Relationship Skill Is Essential: How to Have a Relationship Check-In

Alex Spangler

Building relationship check-ins into your daily, weekly and monthly routines can keep your relationship healthy. Learn how to do it right!

Commitment Is a Choice

Kendra Han

Commitment means you are always on the same team and thinking about how your choices will impact your relationship.

Five Relationship Myths That Refuse to Go Away

Alex Spangler

5 relationship myths that people still believe even though Gottman's 50 years of research says otherwise.

The Rhythm of Repair

Kim Lampson

Learn why partners have different timelines for repairing after conflict and how understanding your repair rhythm can strengthen your relationship.

Type A Personality in Relationships: Strengths, Struggles, and How to Make It Work

Alexander Elguren

How to Stay Connected as a Couple During the Summer

The Gottman Institute

Summer can bring changes to routines and increased stressors. Use the time to connect with your partner while making memories as a family.

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