The Pursuer-Distancer Dynamic

Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW  //  

While all couples need autonomy and closeness, many partners struggle with the pursuer-distancer dance and feel chronically dissatisfied with their degree of intimacy. When the pattern of pursuing and distancing becomes ingrained, the behavior of one partner provokes and maintains the behavior of the other.

Discovering Dr. Gottman as a Conflict Resolution Professional

Natalie Smith  //  

When you are trying to get your point across, it is not helpful to scream louder or longer. That is a waste of time and energy—time and energy better spent reviewing the perspectives of both parties involved.

Do Trial Separations Work?

Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW  //  

Can a relationship benefit from taking a break? It all comes down to outlining clear intentions, communication, and goals.

Can Words Really Hurt Me?

Shantel Patu  //  

Sticks and stones may break my bones, but can words really hurt me?