How We Used the Aftermath of a Fight to Repair Our Relationship
Every conflict offers an opportunity for a deeper understanding.
Opinion: Gottman’s Four Rules and the Need for Diversity
Listen to the women. Listen to the people of color.
A Vacation Survival Guide for Couples
If you haven't travelled together as a couple, do it as soon as possible.
Gottman’s Four Rules for a Better America
If we all follow these rules, together, we can make this a better country.
It’s Okay to Go to Bed Angry
You can love better tomorrow, even if it’s difficult today.
Seriously. What’s the Point of Marriage?
The point of marriage is not happiness. The point of marriage is growth.
How to Give Effective Feedback in the Workplace
I communicated irregularly with a tendency to criticize, but learning how to communicate assertively ended that pattern.
Managing vs. Resolving Conflict in Relationships: The Blueprints for Success
A look at three “conflict blueprints” to help you and your partner constructively manage conflict around unsolvable problems.
Transforming Criticism into Wishes: A Recipe for Successful Conflict
For conflict conversations to succeed, you must state your feelings as neutrally as possible and transform any complaint about your partner into a positive need.
There Are Two Views to Every Conflict and Both Are Valid
You don't have to agree, but you do need to show respect for your partner's opinions.
Help Your Partner Understand Your Side of the Conflict in 3 Steps
Here's how to get your partner to attune to you during conflict.
Mastering Marriage Conflict with Mulligans
Dr. Gottman has discovered that successful marriages use repair attempts like golfers use mulligans.