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Manage Conflict: Using Compromise as an Opportunity to Build Intimacy

Jennifer Bingaman

Dr. Gottman found that compromise is essential to managing conflict in relationships.

The 12 Year Study

Ellie Lisitsa

The Gottmans have made a commitment to assuring that lesbian and gay couples have resources to help strengthen and support their relationships.

Build a Culture of Appreciation

Ellie Lisitsa

Negative Sentiment Override can kill any appreciation you have for your partner. Learn how to develop an eye for your partner's good characteristics.

Love Quiz: Do You and Your Partner Accept Each Other’s Influence?

Ellie Lisitsa

Influencing within a relationship helps build a positive perspective.

The Sound Relationship House: The Positive Perspective

Ellie Lisitsa

A fundamental principle of maintaining The Positive Perspective in your relationship is to let your partner influence you.

The Sound Relationship House: Turn Towards Instead of Away

Ellie Lisitsa

Playful bids and enthusiastic efforts to turn towards each other result in heightened levels of positivity during conflict discussions.

Ask Yourselves: Who Am I?

Ellie Lisitsa

Sit down with your partner and ask each other these questions about your dreams, struggles, and future goals.

The Sound Relationship House: Build Love Maps

Ellie Lisitsa

Love Maps help you develop greater personal insight and a more detailed understanding of each other’s life and world.

Date Night in a Jar

Ellie Lisitsa

A stash of date night ideas can present fun surprises for you and your partner when you want alone time to connect.

How to Know Your Bids

Ellie Lisitsa

The first step to responding to bids is recognizing one when you see or hear it.

What “Turning Against” Really Means

Ellie Lisitsa

A partner who turns against bids may not be doing it maliciously. See what the real cause could be.

Turning Against Bids: A Relationship Killer

Ellie Lisitsa

Recognizing your interactions with your partner allows you to catch and reverse toxic patterns of behavior that cause damage to your relationship.

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