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I’d Sworn off Dating “Allies,” Until I Met a Real One

Real Relationships

He may never understand exactly how I’m feeling or what it’s like to be in my shoes, but he knows when to speak up and when to stay quiet—to listen and learn from me and others with different experiences.

Dating a Man 16 Years Younger Forced Me to Grow Up

Real Relationships

The deeper I fell, the more fearful I became, and the more I looked for imperfections.

My Sexual Fluidity Woke Me Up

Real Relationships

Judgments dehumanise and minimise the beautiful greyness of being human.

Reclaiming Our Stories From Trauma

Jenny TeGrotenhuis

Our past may have written the script, but we can write a new script for how we respond in the present.

I Got Married in Jeans but Our Marriage Got Serious

Real Relationships

Marriage was a fancy house we hadn’t been invited into and we wanted to dance on the sofa in muddy shoes.

John Gottman and Brené Brown on Running Headlong Into Heartbreak

Kerry Lusignan

The Gottmans and Brené Brown give us a map—a macro perspective of the wilderness of our hearts, and the wildness of love.

My Husband Died—Our Relationship Didn’t

Real Relationships

I am grateful for the independent self that was fostered in our marriage as I carve a lone way forward through this surreal new world.

How to Attract Your Ideal Clients to Your Private Practice

The Gottman Institute

Why it’s important to have a clear ideal client and how to develop a content strategy for your private practice.

I’m the Polyamorist Next Door

Real Relationships

How can a life that feels so peaceful and content to me be so nauseating to others?

I’m a Conservative Muslim in a Secret Relationship

Real Relationships

If my parents and community found out, I would be shunned for life.

A Letter to My Younger Self on My Wedding Day

Shantel Patu

Here are a few things I’ve learned about love and life over the last 23 years of marriage.

I’m Queer and Anxious. Luckily, So Is My Wife.

Real Relationships

Love softens anxiety’s hold on both of us.

A Happier Relationship Starts Today

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