The Archives

The Magic Relationship Ratio, According to Science

Kyle Benson

That “magic ratio” is 5 to 1. This means that for every negative interaction during conflict, a stable and happy marriage has five (or more) positive interactions.

Moving Beyond Mistakes in Marriage

Hannah Eaton

After recognizing that one has made a mistake, it is important to make a repair with your partner.

Love Smarter by Learning When to Take a Break

Kerry Lusignan

Breaks give you time to calm down, deepen your perspective, and have a successful “do-over” with your partner.

Let’s Have an Honest Conversation About Sex

David and Constantino Khalaf

Sex requires vulnerability and honest communication.

Invest in Your Relationship: The Emotional Bank Account

The Gottman Institute

The difference between happy and unhappy couples is how they manage their Emotional Bank Account.

Marriage Is a Dance

Hannah Eaton

This type of balanced relationship is what we were striving for on the dance floor, and what we seek out on a daily basis in our relationship.

How to Repair the Little Things So They Don’t Become Big Things

The Gottman Institute

Happy couples repair, and they do so early and often.

This One Thing is the Biggest Predictor of Divorce

Eva Van Prooyen

If a couple can revive their fondness and admiration for each other, they are more likely to approach conflict resolution as a team.

To the Couple With the Same Dreams but Different Timelines

David and Constantino Khalaf

Dreams transform with time, and we have to be willing to adapt along with them.

Husbands Can Only Be Influential if They Accept Influence

Jeff Pincus

Being open to influence requires a man to let go of avoidant strategies like distancing, attacking, and defensiveness.

Marriage is Not a Big Thing, It’s a Million Little Things

Liz Higgins

By putting one foot in front of the other, you can create interactions of connection that lead to a relationship shaped by love, respect, and affirmation.

2 Biases That May Be Hurting Your Relationship

Jon Beaty

Dr. Gottman has identified five tools that couples can use as effective antidotes to confirmation bias and negativity bias in their relationships.

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