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Combat Stonewalling with Self-Care

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Nip stonewalling in the bud with a healthy alternative. The antidote to stonewalling is self-soothing.

Self-Care: Stonewalling Part II (The Research)

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Today, we share some scientific specifics on stonewalling.

Self-Care: Stonewalling Part I

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Next time you sense yourself reaching boiling point, know that it’s time to take yourself off the flame.

Homework Assignment: Building a Culture of Appreciation

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Small things often go a long way for validating your partner.

The Trouble with Contempt

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Contempt to be the #1 predictor of divorce. What is contempt, and what makes this horseman the worst?

Accepting Responsibility

Dr. Ellie Wilde

When it comes to your problems as a couple, ditch defensiveness and learn how to accept responsibility for your role. Here's how.

Defensiveness: An Exclusive Interview With Drs. John & Julie Gottman

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Down-regulating one’s own defensiveness is the "work" in Making Relationships Work.

Self Care: Defensiveness

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Defensiveness might seem like the cuddliest of the horsemen. It doesn’t attack... it didn’t mean it that way... and it certainly didn’t do anything wrong.

What Healthy Couples Know About Handling Conflict

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Learn how to implicitly communicate with your partner

Self-Care vs. Criticism

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Part of taking care of yourself and your partner is learning how to avoid the use of criticism.

Support Each Other’s Dreams

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Do you keep your partner's life dreams in mind?

C is for Contempt & Criticism

Zach Brittle, LMHC

"Hold your horses" and learn why contempt and criticism won't get you what you want.

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