Betrayal Trauma in Addiction

Anna Aslanian, LMFT  //  

Betrayal trauma hits the foundation of the person and the relationship—trust.

My Marriage Beyond the Binary

Real Relationships  //  

Sometimes, we are a hetero couple, sometimes a gay couple, but most of the time we live outside of the established labels altogether.

Weathering the Winter of Our Marriage

Kristen Manieri  //  

Commitment doesn’t inoculate us against marriage atrophy. In fact, some would argue that it’s the cause of it. But it’s the thing that keeps us in and has us weather the droughts that are an inevitable part of a long marriage.

I Fell in Love With My Best Friend

Real Relationships  //  

I found myself feeling like there was a different kind of connection forming, beyond best friendship. Could this be?

Do Trial Separations Work?

Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW  //  

Can a relationship benefit from taking a break? It all comes down to outlining clear intentions, communication, and goals.

Wake Up Before Your Wake-Up Call

Toni Parker, Ph.D.  //  

To wake up to the messages life is sending us and avoid crisis, we have to be tuned in to what’s happening right in front of us and not numb out.

I’d Sworn off Dating “Allies,” Until I Met a Real One

Real Relationships  //  

He may never understand exactly how I’m feeling or what it’s like to be in my shoes, but he knows when to speak up and when to stay quiet—to listen and learn from me and others with different experiences.

My Sexual Fluidity Woke Me Up

Real Relationships  //  

Judgments dehumanise and minimise the beautiful greyness of being human.

Reclaiming Our Stories From Trauma

Jenny TeGrotenhuis, LMHC  //  

Our past may have written the script, but we can write a new script for how we respond in the present.