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Emotion Coaching Step 3: Treating a Child’s Feelings with Empathetic Listening and Validation

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Drs. John and Julie Gottman suggest a combination of attentiveness, offerings of simple observations, and validation of your child's emotions in difficult moments.

Emotion Coaching Step 2: Seeing Expressions of Emotion as Opportunities for Teaching and Intimacy

Dr. Ellie Wilde

You can work through tough emotions instead of trying to "fix" them.

Emotion Coaching Step 1: Empathy

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Use Emotion Coaching and empathy in your conversations with your child, and see the differences it makes in difficult moments.

Parenting as Your Kids Grow Up

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Managing conflict well and being your child's emotion coach are just a few effective parenting tips from the Gottmans.

Parenting: Avoiding Relationship Meltdowns

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Here are ways to keep your relationship going strong once a newborn arrives.

Love Map Building

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Learn the inner world of your partner by building love maps.

Make Life Dreams Come True: How to Support Your Partner

The Gottman Institute

To develop plans that work for both of you, make sure that you explore all of your options and that the needs of both you and your partner are met.

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