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Create Shared Meaning: Rituals for the Family

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Creating shared meaning by establishing rituals of connection is not just for couples. Traditions can bring your whole family together.

Make Life Dreams Come True: Trusting Each Other

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Building trust, and feeling your partner begin to trust you, will bring you to a place in which this kind of connection is possible.

Make Life Dreams Come True: Self-Discovery

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Follow this exercise where you play both the speaker and the listener to share the source behind conflict: life dreams and goals!

Make Life Dreams Come True: Dreams Within Conflict

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Make each other's dreams come true.

Manage Conflict: Moving Forward

Dr. Ellie Wilde

The real predictor of a relationship’s failure is a couple’s inability to manage conflict in a healthy manner and to move forward.

Manage Conflict: Identifying Your Triggers

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Working on understanding each other’s triggers is one of the most important things that you can do to avoid hurting one another.

Manage Conflict: The Aftermath of a Fight

Dr. Ellie Wilde

When you make repair attempts early, you can salvage the point of the conversation and create a more productive and positive outcome.

Manage Conflict: The Art of Compromise

Dr. Ellie Wilde

We’ve all been in the middle of an argument that we know we cannot win, understanding that our frustration has overwhelmed all sense of perspective.

Love Quiz: What is the State of Compromise in Your Relationship?

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Take this quiz to assess the state of compromise in your relationship.

Manage Conflict: Repair and De-Escalate

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Here are a few examples of phrases that you can use to help repair and de-escalate when conversations get tense.

Manage Conflict: Using Compromise as an Opportunity to Build Intimacy

Jennifer Bingaman

Dr. Gottman found that compromise is essential to managing conflict in relationships.

The 12 Year Study

Dr. Ellie Wilde

The Gottmans have made a commitment to assuring that lesbian and gay couples have resources to help strengthen and support their relationships.

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