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Combat Stonewalling with Self-Care

Ellie Lisitsa

Nip stonewalling in the bud with a healthy alternative. The antidote to stonewalling is self-soothing.

Self-Care: Stonewalling Part II (The Research)

Ellie Lisitsa

Today, we share some scientific specifics on stonewalling.

Self-Care: Stonewalling Part I

Ellie Lisitsa

Next time you sense yourself reaching boiling point, know that it’s time to take yourself off the flame.

Homework Assignment: Building a Culture of Appreciation

Ellie Lisitsa

Small things often go a long way for validating your partner.

The Trouble with Contempt

Ellie Lisitsa

Contempt to be the #1 predictor of divorce. What is contempt, and what makes this horseman the worst?

Accepting Responsibility

Ellie Lisitsa

When it comes to your problems as a couple, ditch defensiveness and learn how to accept responsibility for your role. Here's how.

Defensiveness: An Exclusive Interview With Drs. John & Julie Gottman

Ellie Lisitsa

Down-regulating one’s own defensiveness is the "work" in Making Relationships Work.

Self Care: Defensiveness

Ellie Lisitsa

Defensiveness might seem like the cuddliest of the horsemen. It doesn’t attack... it didn’t mean it that way... and it certainly didn’t do anything wrong.

What Healthy Couples Know About Handling Conflict

Ellie Lisitsa

Learn how to implicitly communicate with your partner

Self-Care vs. Criticism

Ellie Lisitsa

Part of taking care of yourself and your partner is learning how to avoid the use of criticism.

Support Each Other’s Dreams

Ellie Lisitsa

Do you keep your partner's life dreams in mind?

C is for Contempt & Criticism

Zach Brittle, LMHC

"Hold your horses" and learn why contempt and criticism won't get you what you want.

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