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A Couple’s Guide to Complaining

Jon Beaty

Dr. John Gottman has refined the skill of effective complaining down to a simple, three-part formula.

The One Thing Any Couple Can Do for Better Connection and Intimacy

Luis Congdon

The simple truth is relationships take work.

How to Avoid the Pursuer-Distancer Pattern in Your Relationship

Steve Horsmon

Intimacy and independence require each other to make a whole.

3 Reasons Stress is Affecting Your Sex Drive and What to Do About It

Maj Wismann

When your sexuality is giving you a hard time, you need to address the underlying problem.

It’s Time to Stop the Stigma Around Couples Therapy

Margaret Rutherford

Therapy isn't a dirty word.

In Relationships, Not Arguing Means You’re Not Communicating

Lisa Brookes Kift

Silence is destructive.

Repair is the Secret Weapon of Emotionally Connected Couples

Kyle Benson

All couples argue. Successful couples repair.

How to Handle Anger in Your Relationship

Sanaa Hyder

Next time you get angry, stop and think about why you’re angry.

Why You Need to Accept Your Partner’s Needs

Heather Gray

Core needs are not negotiable in marriage.

4 Negative Behaviors That May Be Making You Sick

Jon Beaty

Research finds that being in an unhappy marriage can increase your chances of getting sick.

Hurt Feelings Do Not Mean You Did Something Wrong

LaVerna Wilk

When someone’s feelings get hurt, it doesn’t automatically mean someone did something wrong.

Look at Your Partner Through Rose-Colored Glasses (Seriously)

Sanaa Hyder

Successful couples purposefully strive to see each other through rose-colored glasses.

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