Improve Relationship Communication
Stop Feeling Invisible
in Your Relationship
Stop Feeling Invisible
in Your Relationship
You drop hints, try to tell your partner how you feel, or bring things up gently, but nothing changes. Learn how to improve your relationship communication today!
Don’t give up hope, it’s possible to feel close again.
So many couples find themselves stuck in the same painful patterns. They miss moments for connection, they talk over each other, or they simply shut down and pull away.
But there is hope. You can find your way back to each other.
Gottman research involving over 3,000 couples found a powerful difference between relationships that lasted and those that didn’t:
Couples who stayed married turned toward one another and responded to small everyday attempts to connect 86% of the time. In contrast, couples who divorced did so only 33% of the time.
Lasting love is about showing up for one another, day by day and moment by moment. Even small shifts in how you respond to each other can make a huge impact.
You’re not broken. You’re not failing. And you don’t have to do this alone.
Did you know…
Couples often ignore each other’s emotional needs out of mindlessness, not malice.
- Dr. John Gottman
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It has helped us better understand communication; it validated my feelings of not being alone such as 69% of couples had the same problems when they came back 2 years later
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We communicate better and are more intentional with each other. Very helpful!
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The Gottman Relationship Adviser
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Big decisions bring up big emotions. Even the healthiest couples can feel overwhelmed when faced with questions about moving in, marriage, or starting a family. But you don’t have to have it all figured out. You just need to be willing to talk to each other, listen to each other, and grow together.
Why do I feel unseen and invisible?
Feeling invisible in your relationship is painful, but it’s often not intentional. Gottman research shows that many couples miss bids for connection simply because they’re distracted, stressed, or unaware. It’s usually not because they don’t care. The good news is, you can learn to notice and respond to each other’s needs more effectively.
You can learn more about working through perpetual problems with the Gottman Relationship Adviser, or spot-check with the Dealing with Conflict Coach program.
What are bids for connection and why do they matter?
A bid for connection is any attempt—big or small, verbal or nonverbal—to get your partner’s attention. It could be a question, touch, or even a sigh. Couples who recognize and respond to these bids build trust and emotional safety over time. Ignoring bids, on the other hand, can lead to distance and loneliness. Learning to spot them can transform your relationship!
What if my partner shuts down or withdraws when I try to talk to them?
This is a communication pattern the Gottmans call “stonewalling”. It’s where one partner emotionally shuts down during difficult conversations. It’s often a sign of feeling overwhelmed, not a lack of love. Learning how to approach these moments gently and create emotional safety can help your partner tune in more to your conversations in the future. Gottman tools teach how to recognize and respond to stonewalling.
Why does it feel like every conversation turns into a fight?
It’s often not the topic, but the way the conversation starts. Gottman research shows that 94% of the time, the way a discussion begins determines how it will end. If you start a conversation with blame, criticism, or raised voices, it’s likely not going to go anywhere productive. Learning how to use soft start-ups and “I” statements can make a huge difference.
What is a soft start-up and how does it help?
A soft start-up is a communication technique that involves expressing an issue without blame. It often involves this formula: “I feel _____ about ______ and I need _______.”
What’s the first step to improving our communication?
Start small. Begin by noticing how you approach conversations, especially during tense moments. Are there improvements you could be making? Using a softer tone, expressing how you feel instead of what your partner is doing wrong, and listening to understanding instead of listening to respond are all great places to start.
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Conflict Bundle
Transform Relationship Fights
in just 2-3 Minutes at a Time
Having the Same Fight Over and Over? Break Free in Just 2-3 Minutes a Day
32 Expert Videos + 13 Relationship-Saving Exercises from Drs. John & Julie Gottman
Research shows the average couple waits six years of unhappiness before seeking help. During that time, the emotional toll on your relationship continues to grow. The key isn’t solving these issues – it’s learning to discuss them productively.
- Transform gridlocked issues into productive conversations
- Identify and express the deeper feelings beneath conflicts
- Create understanding even when you disagree
- Prevent small irritations from becoming major arguments
- Each video is just 2-3 minutes—less time than you spent on your last argument.
$137.00
Originally $250.00
Two Powerful Programs Created by Relationship Science Pioneers
Immediate practical solutions from the world’s leading relationship experts:
Dealing with Conflict
Stop arguments before they spiral
What You'll Learn:
- Why you keep fighting about the same things and how to finally break free
- The gentle approach to conflict conversations that prevents defensiveness
- How to express your feelings in a way your partner can actually hear
- Understanding your partner’s perspective (and helping them understand yours)
- Identifying the values and beliefs that drive your conflicts
Includes:
- 15 focused videos (2-3 minutes each)
- 6 research-based exercises
- PDF guides for quick reference
- 2 web-based exercises
- Role-play demonstrations showing exactly what to say
Making Up
After an Argument
Recover and reconnect faster
What You'll Learn:
- The proven 5-step “Aftermath of a Fight” process that resolves tension
- How to manage “Flooding” when emotions overwhelm you
- Self-soothing techniques that work in the heat of the moment
- How to make effective “repair attempts” during conflicts
- Identifying what your arguments are REALLY about
Includes:
- 17 concise videos
- 7 research-based exercises
- Step-by-step recovery guides
- English with Spanish subtitles available
Videos
2-3 minutes each
Perfect for busy schedules and quick learning. Watch during a quick break
Stage-specific
exercises
Tailored to your unique relationship challenges. See results in your very next conversation
Build lasting
conflict habits
Create new patterns that actually stick. Apply the technique immediately
Access anywhere,
anytime
Digital format fits your on-the-go lifestyle
Most users report significant improvement after implementing
just one or two techniques.
Why waste hours in circular arguments when a 2-3 minute video could change everything?
$137.00
Originally $250.00
The short argument and conflict videos were perfect for my hectic schedule. I watched during coffee breaks and used the techniques that same day! We've been having the same fight for months, but after trying the "gentle startup" approach, the conversation finally went differently!
Review from Emma P.
I was surprised how much I learned in just 2-3 minute segments. The exercises were quick but incredibly effective. For the first time, we actually understood what we were really fighting about instead of just going in circles.
Review from Alex D.
I was skeptical about the cost, but after months of having the same fights on repeat and looking for help in all the wrong places (including that infamous "just talk more" advice from my MiL), this hit the mark. Josh and I watched during breakfast and applied the techniques that same day with immediate results. The bite-sized format fits our busy schedules, and we've learned more practical skills in two weeks than in years of trying bad YouTube advice. Considering therapy costs, this program is worth every penny for the peace it brought to our relationship and saving us from becoming that couple who communicates through passive-aggressive sticky notes!
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One Investment, A Lifetime of Relationship Skills
The Complete All About Conflict Bundle Includes:
- Dealing with Conflict program ($149 value)
- Making Up After an Argument program ($149 value)
- All 32 expert videos (just 2-3 minutes each)
- All 13 research-based exercises
- PDF and web-based materials
- Spanish subtitles available
- Lifetime digital access
$137.00
Originally $250.00
The Real Cost Comparison
The All About Conflict bundle is less than 1/16th the cost of a typical therapy process and approximately 1/100th the cost of an average divorce – for relationship skills you’ll use for a lifetime.
Couples Therapy
Per session $200 – $400
$2,400 - $4,800
On average 12 weeks of therapy
All About Conflict
One-time Payment
$137.00
2-3 minutes a day, lifetime of access
Divorce
Per month $2,500 – $3,300
$15,000 - $20,000
The average divorce takes 1-6 months
"You’re Fighting With Your Partner All Wrong."
“...the renowned experts on marital stability."
“The Einstein of Love”
“Legendary Couples Therapists John and Julie Gottman Say This Common Communication Advice Is Dead Wrong”
“The right way to fight with your significant other”
“Researchers who have studied over 40,000 couples can predict divorce with 94% accuracy largely based on this communication error”
“Understanding the "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse" Can Actually Save Your Relationship”
“How Long Does It Take to Fix a Marriage? Give the Gottmans 7 Days.”
“You Should Probably Start Paying More Attention To 'Bids' In Your Relationship”
Understand What You're Actually Fighting About
Dr. John Gottman’s 50+ years of research reveals a surprising truth: 69% of relationship conflicts are PERPETUAL problems that won’t be “solved” through traditional approaches.
"Conflict is inevitable. Combat is optional."
Start Seeing Results Today!
$137.00
Originally $250.00
All About Conflict Bundle
Transform Relationship Fights in just 2-3 Minutes
Having the same fight over and over? Break Free in Just Minutes a Day.
Original price was: $298.00.$137.00Current price is: $137.00.
32 Expert Videos + 13 Relationship-Saving Exercises From Drs. John & Julie Gottman
Having the same fight over and over? Break Free in Just 2-3 Minutes a Day.
- Videos just 2-3 minutes each – Perfect for busy schedules and quick learning
- Stage-specific exercises – Tailored to your unique relationship challenges
- Build lasting conflict habits – Create new patterns that actually stick
- Access anywhere, anytime – Digital format fits your on-the-go lifestyle
Two powerful programs created by relationship science pioneers
The All About Conflict bundle gives you immediate, practical solutions from the world's leading relationship experts:
Stop Arguments Before They Spiral
What You'll Learn: Why you keep fighting about the same things and how to finally break free. The gentle approach to conflict conversations that prevents defensiveness. How to express your feelings in a way your partner can actually hear. Understanding your partner's perspective (and helping them understand yours) Identifying the values and beliefs that drive your conflicts Includes: 15 focused videos (2-3 minutes each). 6 research-based exercises. PDF guides for quick reference. Web-based exercise versions. Role-play demonstrations showing exactly what to say.
Recover and Reconnect Faster
What You'll Learn: The proven 5-step "Aftermath of a Fight" process that resolves tension How to manage "Flooding" when emotions overwhelm you Self-soothing techniques that work in the heat of the moment How to make effective "repair attempts" during conflicts Identifying what your arguments are REALLY about Includes: 17 concise videos. 7 research-based exercises. Step-by-step recovery guides. English with Spanish subtitles available.
Designed for real-world relationships, not theory
This complete program shows you how to make these shifts in your day-to-day relationship.
It’s not about becoming a completely different person – it’s about learning to approach conflict differently at a fundamental level. You can change the patterns of your conflicts and have better fights.
You can grow closer, even in the face of challenges. You have the power to transform your relationship, one step at a time, so we can care for each other, even in conflict.
You are going to have fights. Get equipped for one great price.
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“The short videos were perfect for my busy schedule – I could watch during a coffee break and use the techniques that same day. We’ve been having the same fight for months, but after trying the ‘gentle startup’ approach, the conversation finally went differently.”
Jordan T.
All About Conflict Customer
“I was surprised how much I learned in just 2-3 minute segments. The exercises were quick but incredibly effective. For the first time, we actually understood what we were really fighting about instead of just going in circles.”
Alex D.
All About Conflict Customer
The quick-win approach to better relationships
Each video is intentionally brief (2-3 minutes) so you can:
- Watch during a quick break
- Apply the technique immediately
- See results in your very next conversation
- Most users report significant improvement after
- implementing just one or two techniques.
Understand what you're actually fighting about
Dr. John Gottman’s 50+ years of research reveals a surprising truth: 69% of relationship conflicts are PERPETUAL problems that won’t be “solved” through traditional approaches.
The key isn’t solving these issues – it’s learning to discuss them productively. This bundle gives you the exact tools to:
- Transform gridlocked issues into productive conversations
- Identify and express the deeper feelings beneath conflicts
- Create understanding even when you disagree
- Prevent small irritations from becoming major arguments
One investment, lifetime relationship skills
The complete All About Conflict bundle includes:
- Dealing with Conflict program ($149 value)
- Making Up After an Argument program ($149 value)
- All 32 expert videos (just 2-3 minutes each)
- All 13 research-based exercises
- PDF and web-based materials
- Spanish subtitles available
- Lifetime digital access
Original price was: $298.00.$137.00Current price is: $137.00.
The real cost comparison
All About Conflict Bundle: $149 one-time payment
VS.
Couples Therapy: $2,400-$4,800 (Based on 12 weeks of therapy at $200-$400 per session)
Average Divorce: $15,000-$20,000 (Not including emotional toll and long-term financial impact)
That’s less than 1/16th the cost of a typical therapy process and approximately 1/100th the cost of an average divorce – for relationship skills you’ll use for a lifetime.
Start seeing results today
Research shows the average couple waits six years of unhappiness before seeking help. During that time, the emotional cost and toll on your relationship continues to grow.
Each video is just 2-3 minutes—less time than you spent on your last argument.
Original price was: $298.00.$137.00Current price is: $137.00.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Common questions answered below. More help: Gottman Support Center.
What is the Gottman Relationship Adviser?
The Adviser is an unparalleled approach to relationship wellness. Measure your relationship health with a research-based self-assessment, analyze key areas of your partnership to identify your strengths and weaknesses, then start a tailored, step-by-step digital program proven to heal and strengthen your connection. Improve your relationship on your schedule, from anywhere.
What is the Gottman Relationship Coach?
The Gottman Relationship Coach is a self-guided program based on the popular Gottman Method. the Coach is an inspiring and educational multimedia experience created and designed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman to enhance and transform the wellbeing of relationships. Participants access research-based relationship skill-building tools in a series of interactive videos, exercises, and card decks designed to inspire healthy communication and deeper connection.
What is the diference between the Gottman Relationship Adviser and the Coach Programs?
Whereas the Gottman Relationship Coach products address specific areas of your relationship you select, the Gottman Relationship Adviser is a complete relationship wellness program. The Adviser takes the guesswork out of improving your relationship by combining assessment and solutions all in one place. Start with a checkup to find out what you can improve, then follow a personalized, step-by-step plan for your relationship.
How does the Gottman Relationship Adviser analyze and explain my relationship?
The Adviser uses the Sound Relationship House Theory, created by world-renowned psychologists Drs. John and Julie Gottman. The Sound Relationship House is a foundational concept within Gottman Method and has been used successfully with hundreds of thousands of couples all over the world to help them understand and improve their relationships.
If I have purchased the Gottman Assessment or a Coach program, can I still experience the Gottman Relationship Adviser?
Yes, customers can benefit from taking the Gottman Relationship Adviser. The Gottman Relationship Adviser will give you a full snapshot of the state of your relationship based on a detailed self-assessment, then provides recommendations for improvement. You will also get credit for your original purchase at checkout, just login before you check out.
Do I have to take the Gottman Relationship Adviser with my partner?
No, you have the option to take the Gottman Relationship Adviser with or without your partner. You can take the Gottman Relationship Adviser alone to learn about yourself and your relationship, or you can invite your partner to take the Adviser as well, even after starting your own self-assessment. After you log in and invite your partner, they can access the Relationship Adviser by registering on Gottman Connect. Once they register, they will have the option to complete the self-assessment to receive their own custom relationship results..
Will my partner and I receive separate results?
Yes, you and your partner complete your own self-assessment and receive separate results based on your unique answers.
What does the assessment portion of the Gottman Relationship Adviser measure?
The Gottman Relationship Adviser can help you gain insight into your overall relationship health, friendship and intimacy, romance, sex, and passion, how you manage conflict, your shared meaning, trust, commitment, and more.
What if my partner and I decide we need to see a therapist after taking the Gottman Relationship Adviser?
You can find a Gottman-trained therapist on The Gottman Referral Network. This Network of experienced clinicians are certified the Gottman Method-based relationship-building techniques and can use your assessments and work with the Adviser or Coaches to help you get on the pathway to a healthy, long-lasting relationship more quickly.
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The Power of Her Voice: Relationship Science That Celebrates Women
Discover how the unique strengths women bring to relationships can transform your connection
Make This Month Count—for You and the Next Generation
Your relationships thrive when you do.
For over 50 years, Gottman research has revealed something powerful: relationships thrive when women’s voices are fully heard and valued. This Women’s History Month, we’re celebrating the unique communication patterns, emotional intelligence, and relationship insights that women bring to their partnerships – and providing science-backed tools to help these strengths flourish.
What our research reveals about women's relationship strengths
Our studies show that women often excel at emotional awareness, perspective-taking, and repair attempts during conflict – skills that are critical predictors of relationship success. Yet many women report feeling unheard or undervalued in their relationships.
The Gottman Method helps couples recognize and amplify these strengths, creating relationships where both partners feel deeply understood.
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Tools That Amplify Her Voice
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- All about the Sound Relationship House and how to build your own.
- How to ask better questions that lead to richer conversations.
- Better and more effective ways to express your love.
- How to get specific about the things you appreciate, and communicate them in ways your partner will really hear.
- What skills the “Masters of Relationships” practice regularly and how to implement them in your own relationship.
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- How to identify and share your truth
- About what we call Bids for Connection, and the three ways you can respond to them
- How to Turn Towards your partner to make your relationship successful.
- A concept of an Emotional Bank Account and positive emotions, and how to increase the balance in your Emotional Bank Account
- How to identify and express your needs in the relationship
- How to be a great listener
- How to have a stress-reducing conversation
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Relevant Blog Content
"You’re Fighting With Your Partner All Wrong."
“...the renowned experts on marital stability."
“The Einstein of Love”
“Legendary Couples Therapists John and Julie Gottman Say This Common Communication Advice Is Dead Wrong”
“The right way to fight with your significant other”
“Researchers who have studied over 40,000 couples can predict divorce with 94% accuracy largely based on this communication error”
“Understanding the "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse" Can Actually Save Your Relationship”
“How Long Does It Take to Fix a Marriage? Give the Gottmans 7 Days.”
“You Should Probably Start Paying More Attention To 'Bids' In Your Relationship”
Your relationships thrive when you do.
- Gottman research shows us that emotional intelligence, trust, and conflict management are key to lasting love. Strengthening these skills improves your well-being and deepens every relationship in your life.
- How you show up for yourself shapes your connections. Prioritizing self-awareness, emotional regulation, and communication creates the foundation for stronger relationships.
- Caring for your emotional health helps you connect better. Setting boundaries, expressing feelings, and practicing self-compassion allow you to turn toward loved ones with patience and understanding.
- Self-care isn’t selfish—it’s essential. Managing stress, expressing needs, and setting healthy boundaries build the emotional resilience that allows your relationships to thrive.
- Great relationships start with personal growth. When you invest in yourself, you become a better listener, a more thoughtful partner, and a more emotionally present friend.
When you grow, your relationships grow with you.
- Growth starts within. Learning to manage your emotions, improve communication, and improve your relationship with yourself can help all your others thrive.
- Discover how prioritizing self-love and care supports healthy, long-lasting relationships in all areas of your life.
- Want stronger relationships in all areas of your life? Start with the relationship with yourself.
- When you show up for yourself, you show up better for others.
- Taking care of yourself is the foundation for healthy relationships.
- Discover the balance between self-love and connection.
- Healthy relationships start with a healthy you. Learn how self-awareness and emotional growth transform every connection in your life.
Gottman Essentials Webinar Bundle
NEW! Gottman Essentials Webinar Bundle
Improve communication and build lasting love with 5 expert-led sessions, perfect for couples seeking to strengthen their bond, whether you’re newly dating or have been together for years.
Give your relationship the gift of deeper connection and growth with our brand-new Gottman Essentials Webinar Bundle!
Special Introductory Price
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Powered by the World Famous Gottman Method, Trusted by Millions
"You’re Fighting With Your Partner All Wrong."
“...the renowned experts on marital stability."
“The Einstein of Love”
“Legendary Couples Therapists John and Julie Gottman Say This Common Communication Advice Is Dead Wrong”
“The right way to fight with your significant other”
“Researchers who have studied over 40,000 couples can predict divorce with 94% accuracy largely based on this communication error”
“Understanding the "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse" Can Actually Save Your Relationship”
“How Long Does It Take to Fix a Marriage? Give the Gottmans 7 Days.”
“You Should Probably Start Paying More Attention To 'Bids' In Your Relationship”
Meet Your Webinar Workshop Hosts
- Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT, CGT is the author of “I Want This To Work: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating the Most Difficult Issues We Face in the Modern Age.”
- Donald L. Cole, D.Min., LPC, LMFT is the Clinical Director of The Gottman Institute, a Licensed Professional Counselor, a Licensed Marriage & Family Counselor and an approved LPC & LMFT Supervisor.
- Kimberly Panganiban, MA, LMFT, CGT is a Certified Gottman Therapist focused on premarital couples, newlyweds, long-term relationships, affairs/betrayals, and sexual dissatisfaction.
- Laura Heck, LMFT is a licensed marriage and family therapist who co-developed the Seven Principles Leader Training with The Gottman Institute’s Clinical Director Dr. David Penner.
- Dr. Faith Drew, Phd, LMFT, CGT is a Certified Gottman Therapist who, with her husband, Dr. George Bitar, present The Art and Science of Love workshops for couples.
New Gottman Essentials Webinar Bundle Special Introductory Price
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5 Steps to a Stronger Relationship
Step 1: Build a strong foundation (Assess your relationship & identify strengths/weaknesses)
Step 2: Strengthen emotional & physical intimacy (Enhance friendship, intimacy & connection)
Step 3: Master Conflict and Arguments (Learn to manage disagreements & stop destructive patterns)
Step 4: Improve communication (Practical skills to create trust & mutual understanding)
Step 5: Align on shared goals & long-term commitment (Create meaning & long-term vision together)
A complete roadmap to a healthier, happier relationship – guided by the Gottman Method.
Who This Bundle is For
- New and long-term couples looking to invest in lasting love
- Anyone seeking practical communication tools and conflict resolution skills
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Why You’ll Love It
- Expert Insights: Learn from certified Gottman therapists and LMFTs
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Webinar 1 - Newly Committed Couples: Conversations for the first year of your relationship
In this webinar, Elizabeth Earnshaw walks couples through important conversations to have in their first year of a relationship. You’ll learn how to discuss managing conflict, personal values, life goals, boundaries, and hot topics like money and sex—plus the structures that make these conversations effective. These must-have talks lay a strong foundation that can withstand conflict and clarify if it’s the right relationship for you.
Webinar 2 - Criticism Defensiveness Dance
In this session, Don Cole explores why criticism and defensiveness can be so destructive to relationships. Identified by Dr. John Gottman as one of the “Four Horsemen” (predictors of relationship breakdown), defensiveness can lead to other negative patterns like contempt and stonewalling. Learn specific strategies to break the cycle and bring about more positive outcomes in challenging conversations.
Webinar 3 - How Small Actions Make Big Impacts: Daily Acts of Love to Improve Your Relationship
Feeling disconnected or worried about keeping the spark alive amid life’s many responsibilities? Discover Gottman’s “Small Things Often” motto—easy, everyday habits that build long-lasting connection. Kimberly Panganiban shows you practical techniques to strengthen your bond in just a few moments a day, so you can keep your relationship on a positive path for the long run.
Webinar 4 - Relationship Hack: How To Be a Great Listener
This webinar focuses on the often-overlooked skill of listening. Dr. Faith Drew delves into creating a safe space for open communication and offers practical techniques to enhance your empathy, avoid “listening to respond,” and truly make your partner feel heard. Strengthen your bond by mastering the art of active listening.
Webinar 5 - Reconnect and Return to Each Other
Tailored for couples together ten or more years, this session helps you return to one another with renewed compassion, understanding, and hope. Laura Heck guides you through three key exercises to shape a future vision that meets your current, more mature needs, support each other through stressful life events, and establish meaningful ground rules for cooperating in a fulfilling relationship.
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Get started on the right path today and start making improvements immediately. This collection of relationship workshops have been curated to help couples new to Gottman principles and also relationship wizards looking to take things to the next level.
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A Happier Relationship Starts Today
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Drs. John and Julie Gottman have devoted their lives to helping couples build lasting, healthy relationships. Their 50+ years of research powers the Gottman Relationship Adviser, providing you with a tool grounded in decades of expertise.
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- The difference between dreams and goals
- How to have conversations around your hopes for your lives, both individually and together
- The meaning of trust and commitment, and how to increase both in your relationship
- How to go “all in” on your relationship, and the fruits that it can bear
- How to introduce more fun, play, and adventure in your lives
- How to create your own Rituals of Connection
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- How to process even the most difficult arguments and heal from them together.
- What to do when you are feeling overwhelmed and overloaded, what we call “Flooding”.
- What happens in your body when you are in conflict.
- How to calm yourself down, in or out of conflict.
- The importance of “repair attempts,” or ways to get the conversation back on track, plus how to notice and make them
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- Why you keep fighting about the same things, and how to get “unstuck.”
- How to address recurring issues within your relationship.
- How to approach conflict conversations gently, in a way that addresses specific issues.
- How to identify what your feelings and experiences are around issues that are causing conflict, and how to gently bring them up with your partner.
- How to understand your partner’s side of an issue, and how to get your partner to understand where you’re coming from.
- How to examine the individual values, ideas, and beliefs that influence how you and your partner engage with the world around you.
- More about your own emotions.
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- The Gottman Method and How to Make Your Relationship Work
- How do we predict the future of a relationship?
- How to build a Sound Relationship House
- What to do when the destructive Four Horsemen enter your relationship
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- How to identify and share your truth
- About what we call Bids for Connection, and the three ways you can respond to them
- How to Turn Towards your partner to make your relationship successful.
- A concept of an Emotional Bank Account and positive emotions, and how to increase the balance in your Emotional Bank Account
- How to identify and express your needs in the relationship
- How to be a great listener
- How to have a stress-reducing conversation
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Who This Bundle is For:
- New and long-term couples looking to invest in lasting love
- Anyone seeking practical communication tools and conflict resolution skills
- Partners wanting to reignite intimacy and rediscover excitement
- Couples needing easy, everyday ways to deepen emotional connection
- Those ready to build trust and a supportive, loving environment
Why You’ll Love It:
- Expert Insights: Learn from certified Gottman therapists and LMFTs
- Proven Techniques: Real-world strategies you can apply immediately
- Valuable Savings: Get $210 worth of webinars for just $59
- Instant Access: Pre-recorded sessions you can watch anytime, anywhere
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Save today on these key Gottman products for Couples $50 and less
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NEW! Small Daily Habits. Big Relationship Wins.
Looking for an easy, research-backed way to strengthen your relationship? The Gottman 30 Day Relationship Journal helps you build a simple, meaningful journaling habit, in just a few minutes a day. For 30 days, you’ll receive a daily email straight to your inbox. Each day focuses on a specific Gottman relationship topic and includes three thought-provoking prompts designed to help you reflect, connect, and take action.
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New! You Can’t Please Them All.
Do you often say yes when you really mean no? Will you do almost anything to avoid conflict? Do you always put others’ needs before your own? These people-pleasing tendencies often occur at the expense of your own needs. Stop people-pleasing and take control of your life with this on-demand webinar. Watch a licensed marriage and family therapist teach the tools and mindset to create healthy and satisfying relationships.
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- All about the Sound Relationship House and how to build your own.
- How to ask better questions that lead to richer conversations.
- Better and more effective ways to express your love.
- How to get specific about the things you appreciate, and communicate them in ways your partner will really hear.
- What skills the “Masters of Relationships” practice regularly and how to implement them in your own relationship.
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Ever wonder what’s really going on in your relationship?
Tired of getting into fights and unsure what to do next? Or perhaps you’re curious about which areas of your relationship need improvement? The all-new Gottman Assessment, powered by the legendary scientific Gottman Method, can help you understand the state of your relationship—and get you the help you need to improve it.Original price was: $50.00.$37.00Current price is: $37.00.
A Happier Relationship Starts Today
Subscribe to Gottman Love Notes and get regular relationship tips and resources from the experts, plus a monthly free couples exercise and access to special pricing on Gottman products.
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Is the spark fading between you and your partner? Has your sex life taken a nosedive? It’s time to focus on your relationship.
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✓ Satisfaction guaranteed
✓ No therapist waitlist
✓ 15,000+ couples transformed
Millions trust Gottman to advise them on their relationship
"You’re Fighting With Your Partner All Wrong."
“...the renowned experts on marital stability."
“The Einstein of Love”
“Legendary Couples Therapists John and Julie Gottman Say This Common Communication Advice Is Dead Wrong”
“The right way to fight with your significant other”
“Researchers who have studied over 40,000 couples can predict divorce with 94% accuracy largely based on this communication error”
“Understanding the "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse" Can Actually Save Your Relationship”
“How Long Does It Take to Fix a Marriage? Give the Gottmans 7 Days.”
“You Should Probably Start Paying More Attention To 'Bids' In Your Relationship”
Improve Communication, Build Trust, and Have Amazing Sex
Focus on emotional closeness and mutual understanding to experience a more satisfying and passionate relationship.
You’ll start by taking a research-based relationship assessment to reflect on how you’re doing across key areas like communication, conflict, trust, intimacy, and friendship.
Once your results are in, the Adviser creates a personalized plan tailored to your unique relationship dynamics. You’ll get…
- A tailored action plan for your relationship
- Video lessons from the experts
- Guided exercises and role-plays
- Actionable tools you can put into practice right away
Special Sale Price
Original price was: $250.00.$157.00Current price is: $157.00.
Step 1
Take the Assessment Alone or With a Partner
Take a scientific Gottman questionnaire to measure your relationship health with a brand new category on deep emotional connections. It’s easy and takes under an hour. You can take breaks at any time and come back later.
Step 2
Explore Your Connection Compass
Your assessment results instantly generate a report featuring the new Gottman Connection Compass. This interactive tool helps you explore seven key relationship areas required for relationship success.
Step 3
Start Your Customized Plan
The Adviser will provide you with a personalized relationship improvement plan using your Connection Compass results. Explore videos, exercises, card decks, discussion questions, and more. Learn relationship tips and pitfalls directly from world experts. Follow the plan and get started building your dream connection.
Special Time-Limited Offer
Take Action Now and Transform Your Relationship
Original price was: $250.00.$157.00Current price is: $157.00.
Special Sale Price
Features
The Gottman Relationship Adviser offers fresh insights, new information, and practical skills to tackle real issues, providing a step-by-step plan for improvement. It acts as a true compass, guiding you toward a happier, stronger bond.
Personal Relationship Adviser
Examines seven key relationship areas essential for lasting happiness, giving you a customized plan to build the relationship you want.
Clear Reports and Actionable Plans
Based on your answers, receive a clear, easy-to-understand report and actionable plan.
Understand Your Compatibility
Get a deeper understanding of compatibility with your partner and proven tools to help.
Engaging Exercises
Enjoy engaging exercises and videos in your personal plan to help you reach your goals.
Track Your Progress
Includes two assessments for tracking your progress.
Take the Guesswork Out
Get deep insights that reveal crucial aspects of your relationship.
Everyone Can Benefit
It’s never too late to strengthen your relationship. Whether you’ve noticed problems for a week or a decade, the Gottman Relationship Adviser can help. Everyone benefits, and if you’re on a rocky path, you can get back on track.
The Gottman Relationship Adviser offers a cost-effective solution to traditional therapy. With no recurring appointments, you gain lifetime access to tools and resources that save you time and money. A stronger, healthier relationship positively affects your well-being, health, and vitality.
Frequently Asked Questions
Can I do it alone or with my partner?
Yes, you can take it alone or with your partner. There are no waitlists, and no need to also be in therapy. Enjoy the convenience of working from the comfort of your home at your own pace. Works on any device.
We are fighting so much or there is a lot distance, how does this help?
The real obstacles in your relationship are often not what you think. The Gottman Relationship Adviser helps you uncover the true issues and provides a proven, workable plan to address them. If you’re on a rocky path, you stand to change the most. Gain access to solutions that work for you by diagnosing the real underlying strengths and opportunities. Then let yourself be guided by the personalized step-by-step plan you´ll receive.
Feeling overwhelmed about where to start?
It can be daunting to improve your relationship. The Gottman Relationship Adviser makes it easy by breaking down the process into manageable steps. Start with the assessment and let the tool guide you with personalized, actionable insights that make progress feel attainable and exciting.
My current situation hurts. Can I really get to a better place? Is it too late?
It is not too late to strengthen your relationship. Whether you’ve noticed problems for a week or a decade, the Gottman Relationship Adviser can help. If you are considering this tool, you likely haven’t thrown in the towel. Our research shows that those who struggle the most often make the most significant gains. Everyone can benefit, and if you’re on a rocky path, you stand to change the most.
Is it worth it, financially?
The Gottman Relationship Adviser offers a cost-effective solution to traditional therapy. With no need for recurring appointments, you gain lifetime access to tools and resources that can save you time and money. People feel more obligated to follow through with something once they have made a strong commitment. If you decide not to follow through and let the current problems persist for another year or five, how much worse will the situation become? Having a stronger, healthier relationship affects your whole life in a positive way. That is true for your well-being, health, and also wealth. With the Gottman Relationship Adviser, you’ll get a clear path to your dream relationship, including understanding your unique obstacles and challenges, and get a roadmap to breaking down the process of getting to your goal into manageable steps.
Is it complex or easy to use?
The Gottman Relationship Adviser is designed to be user-friendly and straightforward. The step-by-step process ensures you can navigate it with ease, making it accessible for everyone. It is also fun!
Is it software or an app?
The Gottman Relationship Adviser is an online solution that you can access from any device, anywhere, at any time. No downloads or installations required.
Insurance Claims:
Currently, the tool is not covered by insurance. However, it offers a cost-effective alternative to traditional therapy, providing significant long-term value for a one-time investment.
Nervous about couples therapy or can’t find a therapist?
Finding a therapist can be daunting, and even if you do find one, you may be placed on a waitlist. Dip your toes in the water with the Gottman Relationship Adviser. This unparalleled approach to relationship wellness is a completely digital self-paced program that can help you and your partner improve your relationship on your schedule, from anywhere, without ever seeing a therapist.
Already in couples therapy or actively working on your connection, but want more ways to improve your relationship?
The Gottman Relationship Adviser is an excellent addition to your regular therapy sessions. This research-based assessment and solution tool measures your relationship health with a self-assessment, then provides a tailored, step-by-step digital program proven to heal and strengthen your connection.
Tired of getting into arguments? Fighting about the same things over and over? Worried your relationship is at risk?
The Gottman Relationship Adviser can help. This complete relationship wellness tool is designed to assess exactly where your relationship needs help, then provides you with a detailed, step-by-step action plan to improve it.
Does your partner refuse to attend couples therapy? Are you feeling helpless and not sure where to turn for relationship advice?
Try the Gottman Relationship Adviser. This unparalleled approach to relationship wellness is a completely digital self-paced program that can help you and your partner improve your relationship on your schedule, from anywhere, without ever seeing a therapist.
Can I take the assessment alone?
You can use the Gottman Relationship Adviser individually or with your partner to get a full snapshot of your relationship along with a personalized relationship improvement plan based on your unique needs.
Want to do more to improve your relationship, but don’t know where to start?
Try the new and improved Gottman Relationship Adviser.
Curious what kinds of questions are asked in the Adviser?
Here are just a few of the 100+ questions designed for a detailed analysis of your relationship. You’ll answer most questions with true or false or a sliding scale, depending on the question format.
My partner appreciates the things I do in our relationship.
When my partner is feeling bad, I am willing to meet their needs.
My partner discusses problems in a calm and logical manner.
We keep talking about the same issue over and over with no resolution.
When we are burned out or tired, we have ways of becoming renewed together.
A Happier Relationship Starts Today
Subscribe to Gottman Love Notes and get regular relationship tips and resources from the experts, plus a monthly free couples exercise and access to special pricing on Gottman products.
Meet the Gottmans
Drs. John and Julie Gottman have devoted their lives to helping couples build lasting, healthy relationships. Their 50+ years of research powers the Gottman Relationship Adviser, providing you with a tool grounded in decades of expertise.
Gottman Relationship Adviser Love
Get Back to Basics
Build the Foundation for a Lifetime of Love
Your relationship affects every aspect of your life.
Whether you’re reconnecting, rebuilding, or growing together, the Gottman Relationship Adviser gives you expert, research-based tools to make your love stronger—only available here.
Original price was: $250.00.$157.00Current price is: $157.00.
Special Sale Pricing
✓ Satisfaction guaranteed
✓ No therapist waitlist
✓ 15,000+ couples transformed
Millions trust Gottman to advise them on their relationship
"You’re Fighting With Your Partner All Wrong."
“...the renowned experts on marital stability."
“The Einstein of Love”
“Legendary Couples Therapists John and Julie Gottman Say This Common Communication Advice Is Dead Wrong”
“The right way to fight with your significant other”
“Researchers who have studied over 40,000 couples can predict divorce with 94% accuracy largely based on this communication error”
“Understanding the "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse" Can Actually Save Your Relationship”
“How Long Does It Take to Fix a Marriage? Give the Gottmans 7 Days.”
“You Should Probably Start Paying More Attention To 'Bids' In Your Relationship”
Ready for More Love, More Connection, and More Happiness?
Transform conflicts into deeper connections, deepen intimacy and trust, and increase daily affection. Experience greater understanding and support, bringing you closer than ever before.
Rely on decades of Gottman research to strengthen your bond. Explore key areas of your relationship and get actionable steps so you can continue to nurture it for years to come.
The Gottman Relationship Adviser is the perfect tool for taking your love to new heights.
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Original price was: $250.00.$157.00Current price is: $157.00.
Don't Wait Any Longer
Get the Gottman Relationship Adviser today and start making improvements immediately.
Complete the easy questions alone or with a partner. You’ll receive a clear and easy-to-understand picture of your relationship’s strengths and opportunities and you’ll get your personalized plan that will lead to a lifetime of love.
✓ Satisfaction guaranteed
✓ No therapist waitlist
✓ 15,000+ couples transformed
Special Sale Price
Original price was: $250.00.$157.00Current price is: $157.00.
Immediately Unlock a Deeper Connection
You’ll start by taking a research-based relationship assessment to reflect on how you’re doing across key areas like communication, conflict, trust, intimacy, and friendship.
Once your results are in, the Adviser creates a personalized plan tailored to your unique relationship dynamics. You’ll get…
- A tailored action plan for your relationship
- Video lessons from the experts
- Guided exercises and role-plays
- Actionable tools you can put into practice right away
Special Sale Pricing
Original price was: $250.00.$157.00Current price is: $157.00.
Step 1
Take the Assessment Alone or With a Partner
Take a scientific Gottman questionnaire to measure your relationship health with a brand new category on deep emotional connections. It’s easy and takes under an hour. You can take breaks at any time and come back later.
Step 2
Explore Your Connection Compass
Your assessment results instantly generate a report featuring the new Gottman Connection Compass. This interactive tool helps you explore seven key relationship areas required for relationship success.
Step 3
Start Your Customized Plan
The Adviser will provide you with a personalized relationship improvement plan using your Connection Compass results. Explore videos, exercises, card decks, discussion questions, and more. Learn relationship tips and pitfalls directly from world experts. Follow the plan and get started building your dream connection.
Special Sale Pricing
Take Action Now and Transform Your Relationship
Original price was: $250.00.$157.00Current price is: $157.00.
Features
The Gottman Relationship Adviser offers fresh insights, new information, and practical skills to tackle real issues, providing a step-by-step plan for improvement. It acts as a true compass, guiding you toward a happier, stronger bond.
Personal Relationship Adviser
Examines seven key relationship areas essential for lasting happiness, giving you a customized plan to build the relationship you want.
Clear Reports and Actionable Plans
Based on your answers, receive a clear, easy-to-understand report and actionable plan.
Understand Your Compatibility
Get a deeper understanding of compatibility with your partner and proven tools to help.
Engaging Exercises
Enjoy engaging exercises and videos in your personal plan to help you reach your goals.
Track Your Progress
Includes two assessments for tracking your progress.
Take the Guesswork Out
Get deep insights that reveal crucial aspects of your relationship.
Everyone Can Benefit
It’s never too late to strengthen your relationship. Whether you’ve noticed problems for a week or a decade, the Gottman Relationship Adviser can help. Everyone benefits, and if you’re on a rocky path, you can get back on track.
The Gottman Relationship Adviser offers a cost-effective solution to traditional therapy. With no recurring appointments, you gain lifetime access to tools and resources that save you time and money. A stronger, healthier relationship positively affects your well-being, health, and vitality.
Frequently Asked Questions
Can I do it alone or with my partner?
Yes, you can take it alone or with your partner. There are no waitlists, and no need to also be in therapy. Enjoy the convenience of working from the comfort of your home at your own pace. Works on any device.
We are fighting so much or there is a lot distance, how does this help?
The real obstacles in your relationship are often not what you think. The Gottman Relationship Adviser helps you uncover the true issues and provides a proven, workable plan to address them. If you’re on a rocky path, you stand to change the most. Gain access to solutions that work for you by diagnosing the real underlying strengths and opportunities. Then let yourself be guided by the personalized step-by-step plan you´ll receive.
Feeling overwhelmed about where to start?
It can be daunting to improve your relationship. The Gottman Relationship Adviser makes it easy by breaking down the process into manageable steps. Start with the assessment and let the tool guide you with personalized, actionable insights that make progress feel attainable and exciting.
My current situation hurts. Can I really get to a better place? Is it too late?
It is not too late to strengthen your relationship. Whether you’ve noticed problems for a week or a decade, the Gottman Relationship Adviser can help. If you are considering this tool, you likely haven’t thrown in the towel. Our research shows that those who struggle the most often make the most significant gains. Everyone can benefit, and if you’re on a rocky path, you stand to change the most.
Is it worth it, financially?
The Gottman Relationship Adviser offers a cost-effective solution to traditional therapy. With no need for recurring appointments, you gain lifetime access to tools and resources that can save you time and money. People feel more obligated to follow through with something once they have made a strong commitment. If you decide not to follow through and let the current problems persist for another year or five, how much worse will the situation become? Having a stronger, healthier relationship affects your whole life in a positive way. That is true for your well-being, health, and also wealth. With the Gottman Relationship Adviser, you’ll get a clear path to your dream relationship, including understanding your unique obstacles and challenges, and get a roadmap to breaking down the process of getting to your goal into manageable steps.
Is it complex or easy to use?
The Gottman Relationship Adviser is designed to be user-friendly and straightforward. The step-by-step process ensures you can navigate it with ease, making it accessible for everyone. It is also fun!
Is it software or an app?
The Gottman Relationship Adviser is an online solution that you can access from any device, anywhere, at any time. No downloads or installations required.
Insurance Claims:
Currently, the tool is not covered by insurance. However, it offers a cost-effective alternative to traditional therapy, providing significant long-term value for a one-time investment.
Nervous about couples therapy or can’t find a therapist?
Finding a therapist can be daunting, and even if you do find one, you may be placed on a waitlist. Dip your toes in the water with the Gottman Relationship Adviser. This unparalleled approach to relationship wellness is a completely digital self-paced program that can help you and your partner improve your relationship on your schedule, from anywhere, without ever seeing a therapist.
Already in couples therapy or actively working on your connection, but want more ways to improve your relationship?
The Gottman Relationship Adviser is an excellent addition to your regular therapy sessions. This research-based assessment and solution tool measures your relationship health with a self-assessment, then provides a tailored, step-by-step digital program proven to heal and strengthen your connection.
Tired of getting into arguments? Fighting about the same things over and over? Worried your relationship is at risk?
The Gottman Relationship Adviser can help. This complete relationship wellness tool is designed to assess exactly where your relationship needs help, then provides you with a detailed, step-by-step action plan to improve it.
Does your partner refuse to attend couples therapy? Are you feeling helpless and not sure where to turn for relationship advice?
Try the Gottman Relationship Adviser. This unparalleled approach to relationship wellness is a completely digital self-paced program that can help you and your partner improve your relationship on your schedule, from anywhere, without ever seeing a therapist.
Can I take the assessment alone?
You can use the Gottman Relationship Adviser individually or with your partner to get a full snapshot of your relationship along with a personalized relationship improvement plan based on your unique needs.
Want to do more to improve your relationship, but don’t know where to start?
Try the new and improved Gottman Relationship Adviser.
Curious what kinds of questions are asked in the Adviser?
Here are just a few of the 100+ questions designed for a detailed analysis of your relationship. You’ll answer most questions with true or false or a sliding scale, depending on the question format.
My partner appreciates the things I do in our relationship.
When my partner is feeling bad, I am willing to meet their needs.
My partner discusses problems in a calm and logical manner.
We keep talking about the same issue over and over with no resolution.
When we are burned out or tired, we have ways of becoming renewed together.
A Happier Relationship Starts Today
Subscribe to Gottman Love Notes and get regular relationship tips and resources from the experts, plus a monthly free couples exercise and access to special pricing on Gottman products.
Meet the Gottmans
Drs. John and Julie Gottman have devoted their lives to helping couples build lasting, healthy relationships. Their 50+ years of research powers the Gottman Relationship Adviser, providing you with a tool grounded in decades of expertise.
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Upgrade Dad’s Communication Toolbox!
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This revolutionary tool, grounded in decades of research, is your comprehensive solution to a happier and healthier romantic relationship. Available exclusively here, it provides personalized insights, expert guidance, and proven, actionable steps to transform your relationship.
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Powered by the World Famous Gottman Method, Trusted by Millions
"You’re Fighting With Your Partner All Wrong."
“...the renowned experts on marital stability."
“The Einstein of Love”
“Legendary Couples Therapists John and Julie Gottman Say This Common Communication Advice Is Dead Wrong”
“The right way to fight with your significant other”
“Researchers who have studied over 40,000 couples can predict divorce with 94% accuracy largely based on this communication error”
“Understanding the "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse" Can Actually Save Your Relationship”
“How Long Does It Take to Fix a Marriage? Give the Gottmans 7 Days.”
“You Should Probably Start Paying More Attention To 'Bids' In Your Relationship”
Is Your Relationship Struggling?
Imagine not having to fight so much. Experience the joy of waking up next to someone you truly trust. Picture feeling safe in the friendship and deep bond between you. Imagine conflicts leading to moments of profound bonding. Share daily kindness, affection, and cuddling together. Feel heard, seen, and supported, knowing you’re with the right person.
The average couple waits six years before seeking help and taking action. The Gottman Relationship Adviser provides you with personalized guidance today. This tool specifically builds trust, repairs conflicts, and deepens emotional connections.
It’s a game-changing tool.
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It's Time To Make Sure
Most couples misidentify their true obstacles to relationship health and delay seeking help. Don’t wait any longer.
Get the Gottman Relationship Adviser today and start making improvements immediately. Complete the easy questions alone or with a partner. The questionnaire takes less than an hour. You’ll receive a clear and easy-to-understand picture of your relationship’s strengths and opportunities. You’ll get your personalized plan.
Let yourself be guided by your unique roadmap, broken into manageable steps, making progress towards a thriving relationship easy, attainable, and exciting.
Lowest Price Ever — Limited Time
$250
$179
The Steps Are Easy And Simple
The Gottman Relationship Adviser offers fresh insights, new information, and practical skills to tackle real issues, providing a step-by-step plan for improvement. It acts as a true compass, guiding you toward a happier, stronger bond.
Step 1
Take the Assessment Alone or With Your Partner
Take a scientific Gottman questionnaire to measure your relationship health with a brand new category on deep emotional connections. It’s easy and takes under an hour. You can take breaks at any time and come back later.
Step 2
Explore Your Connection Compass
Your assessment results instantly generate a report featuring the new Gottman Connection Compass. This interactive tool helps you explore seven key relationship areas required for relationship success.
Step 3
Start Your Customized Plan
The Adviser will provide you with a personalized relationship improvement plan using your Connection Compass results. Explore videos, exercises, card decks, discussion questions, and more. Learn relationship tips and pitfalls directly from world experts. Follow the plan and get started building your dream connection.
Special Time-Limited Offer
Take Action Now and Transform Your Relationship
$179
Personal Relationship Adviser
Examines seven key relationship areas essential for lasting happiness, giving you a customized plan to build the relationship you want.
Clear Reports and Actionable Plans
Based on your answers, receive a clear, easy-to-understand report and actionable plan.
Understand Your Compatibility
Get a deeper understanding of compatibility with your partner and proven tools to help.
Engaging Exercises
Enjoy engaging exercises and videos in your personal plan to help you reach your goals.
Track Your Progress
Includes two assessments for tracking your progress.
Take the Guesswork Out
Get deep insights that reveal crucial aspects of your relationship.
Everyone Can Benefit
It’s never too late to strengthen your relationship. Whether you’ve noticed problems for a week or a decade, the Gottman Relationship Adviser can help. Everyone benefits, and if you’re on a rocky path, you can get back on track.
The Gottman Relationship Adviser offers a cost-effective alternative to traditional therapy. With no recurring appointments, you gain lifetime access to tools and resources that save you time and money. A stronger, healthier relationship positively affects your well-being, health, and vitality.
Frequently Asked Questions
Can I do it alone or with my partner?
Yes, you can take it alone or with your partner. There are no waitlists, and no need to also be in therapy. Enjoy the convenience of working from the comfort of your home at your own pace. Works on any device.
We are fighting so much or there is a lot distance, how does this help?
The real obstacles in your relationship are often not what you think. The Gottman Relationship Adviser helps you uncover the true issues and provides a proven, workable plan to address them. If you’re on a rocky path, you stand to change the most. Gain access to solutions that work for you by diagnosing the real underlying strengths and opportunities. Then let yourself be guided by the personalized step-by-step plan you´ll receive.
Feeling overwhelmed about where to start?
It can be daunting to improve your relationship. The Gottman Relationship Adviser makes it easy by breaking down the process into manageable steps. Start with the assessment and let the tool guide you with personalized, actionable insights that make progress feel attainable and exciting.
My current situation hurts. Can I really get to a better place? Is it too late?
It is not too late to strengthen your relationship. Whether you’ve noticed problems for a week or a decade, the Gottman Relationship Adviser can help. If you are considering this tool, you likely haven’t thrown in the towel. Our research shows that those who struggle the most often make the most significant gains. Everyone can benefit, and if you’re on a rocky path, you stand to change the most.
Is it complex or easy to use?
The Gottman Relationship Adviser is designed to be user-friendly and straightforward. The step-by-step process ensures you can navigate it with ease, making it accessible for everyone. It is also fun!
Is it software or an app?
The Gottman Relationship Adviser is an online solution that you can access from any device, anywhere, at any time. No downloads or installations required.
Nervous about couples therapy or can’t find a therapist?
Finding a therapist can be daunting, and even if you do find one, you may be placed on a waitlist. Dip your toes in the water with the Gottman Relationship Adviser. This unparalleled approach to relationship wellness is a completely digital self-paced program that can help you and your partner improve your relationship on your schedule, from anywhere, without ever seeing a therapist.
Already in couples therapy or actively working on your connection, but want more ways to improve your relationship?
The Gottman Relationship Adviser is an excellent addition to your regular therapy sessions. This research-based assessment and solution tool measures your relationship health with a self-assessment, then provides a tailored, step-by-step digital program proven to heal and strengthen your connection.
Tired of getting into arguments? Fighting about the same things over and over? Worried your relationship is at risk?
The Gottman Relationship Adviser can help. This complete relationship wellness tool is designed to assess exactly where your relationship needs help, then provides you with a detailed, step-by-step action plan to improve it.
Does your partner refuse to attend couples therapy? Are you feeling helpless and not sure where to turn for relationship advice?
Try the Gottman Relationship Adviser. This unparalleled approach to relationship wellness is a completely digital self-paced program that can help you and your partner improve your relationship on your schedule, from anywhere, without ever seeing a therapist.
Can I take the assessment alone?
You can use the Gottman Relationship Adviser individually or with your partner to get a full snapshot of your relationship along with a personalized relationship improvement plan based on your unique needs.
Want to do more to improve your relationship, but don’t know where to start?
Try the new and improved Gottman Relationship Adviser.
Curious what kinds of questions are asked in the Adviser?
Here are just a few of the 100+ questions designed for a detailed analysis of your relationship. You’ll answer most questions with true or false or a sliding scale, depending on the question format.
My partner appreciates the things I do in our relationship.
When my partner is feeling bad, I am willing to meet their needs.
My partner discusses problems in a calm and logical manner.
We keep talking about the same issue over and over with no resolution.
When we are burned out or tired, we have ways of becoming renewed together.
A Happier Relationship Starts Today
Subscribe to Gottman Love Notes and get regular relationship tips and resources from the experts, plus a monthly free couples exercise and access to special pricing on Gottman products.
Meet the Gottmans
Drs. John and Julie Gottman have devoted their lives to helping couples build lasting, healthy relationships. Their 50+ years of research powers the Gottman Relationship Adviser, providing you with a tool grounded in decades of expertise.
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Turn Conflict into Connection
Conflict is the #1 reason couples seek help.
The Gottman Relationship Adviser gives you personalized insights and proven tools to turn conflict into connection—only available here.
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Arguing All the Time?
Imagine not having to fight so much. Experience the joy of waking up next to someone you truly trust. Picture conflicts leading to moments of profound bonding.
The Gottman Relationship Adviser helps with calming down, staying connected, and really understanding each other, so your conflicts can bring you closer.
It’s a game-changing tool.
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Original price was: $250.00.$157.00Current price is: $157.00.
Understand Your Conflict Patterns
You’ll start by taking a research-based relationship assessment to reflect on how you’re doing across key areas like communication, conflict, trust, intimacy, and friendship.
Once your results are in, the Adviser creates a personalized plan tailored to your unique relationship dynamics. You’ll get…
- A tailored action plan for your relationship
- Video lessons from the experts
- Guided exercises and role-plays
- Actionable tools you can put into practice right away
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Original price was: $250.00.$157.00Current price is: $157.00.
✓ Satisfaction guaranteed
✓ No therapist waitlist
✓ 15,000+ couples transformed
Step 1
Take the Assessment Alone or With a Partner
Take a scientific Gottman questionnaire to measure your relationship health with a brand new category on deep emotional connections. It’s easy and takes under an hour. You can take breaks at any time and come back later.
Step 2
Explore Your Connection Compass
Your assessment results instantly generate a report featuring the new Gottman Connection Compass. This interactive tool helps you explore seven key relationship areas required for relationship success.
Step 3
Start Your Customized Plan
The Adviser will provide you with a personalized relationship improvement plan using your Connection Compass results. Explore videos, exercises, card decks, discussion questions, and more. Learn relationship tips and pitfalls directly from world experts. Follow the plan and get started building your dream connection.
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Take Action Now and Transform Your Relationship
Original price was: $250.00.$157.00Current price is: $157.00.
Features
The Gottman Relationship Adviser offers fresh insights, new information, and practical skills to tackle real issues, providing a step-by-step plan for improvement. It acts as a true compass, guiding you toward a happier, stronger bond.
Personal Relationship Adviser
Examines seven key relationship areas essential for lasting happiness, giving you a customized plan to build the relationship you want.
Clear Reports and Actionable Plans
Based on your answers, receive a clear, easy-to-understand report and actionable plan.
Understand Your Compatibility
Get a deeper understanding of compatibility with your partner and proven tools to help.
Engaging Exercises
Enjoy engaging exercises and videos in your personal plan to help you reach your goals.
Track Your Progress
Includes two assessments for tracking your progress.
Take the Guesswork Out
Get deep insights that reveal crucial aspects of your relationship.
Everyone Can Benefit
It’s never too late to strengthen your relationship. Whether you’ve noticed problems for a week or a decade, the Gottman Relationship Adviser can help. Everyone benefits, and if you’re on a rocky path, you can get back on track.
The Gottman Relationship Adviser offers a cost-effective solution to traditional therapy. With no recurring appointments, you gain lifetime access to tools and resources that save you time and money. A stronger, healthier relationship positively affects your well-being, health, and vitality.
Frequently Asked Questions
Can I do it alone or with my partner?
Yes, you can take it alone or with your partner. There are no waitlists, and no need to also be in therapy. Enjoy the convenience of working from the comfort of your home at your own pace. Works on any device.
We are fighting so much or there is a lot distance, how does this help?
The real obstacles in your relationship are often not what you think. The Gottman Relationship Adviser helps you uncover the true issues and provides a proven, workable plan to address them. If you’re on a rocky path, you stand to change the most. Gain access to solutions that work for you by diagnosing the real underlying strengths and opportunities. Then let yourself be guided by the personalized step-by-step plan you´ll receive.
Feeling overwhelmed about where to start?
It can be daunting to improve your relationship. The Gottman Relationship Adviser makes it easy by breaking down the process into manageable steps. Start with the assessment and let the tool guide you with personalized, actionable insights that make progress feel attainable and exciting.
My current situation hurts. Can I really get to a better place? Is it too late?
It is not too late to strengthen your relationship. Whether you’ve noticed problems for a week or a decade, the Gottman Relationship Adviser can help. If you are considering this tool, you likely haven’t thrown in the towel. Our research shows that those who struggle the most often make the most significant gains. Everyone can benefit, and if you’re on a rocky path, you stand to change the most.
Is it worth it, financially?
The Gottman Relationship Adviser offers a cost-effective solution to traditional therapy. With no need for recurring appointments, you gain lifetime access to tools and resources that can save you time and money. People feel more obligated to follow through with something once they have made a strong commitment. If you decide not to follow through and let the current problems persist for another year or five, how much worse will the situation become? Having a stronger, healthier relationship affects your whole life in a positive way. That is true for your well-being, health, and also wealth. With the Gottman Relationship Adviser, you’ll get a clear path to your dream relationship, including understanding your unique obstacles and challenges, and get a roadmap to breaking down the process of getting to your goal into manageable steps.
Is it complex or easy to use?
The Gottman Relationship Adviser is designed to be user-friendly and straightforward. The step-by-step process ensures you can navigate it with ease, making it accessible for everyone. It is also fun!
Is it software or an app?
The Gottman Relationship Adviser is an online solution that you can access from any device, anywhere, at any time. No downloads or installations required.
Insurance Claims:
Currently, the tool is not covered by insurance. However, it offers a cost-effective alternative to traditional therapy, providing significant long-term value for a one-time investment.
Nervous about couples therapy or can’t find a therapist?
Finding a therapist can be daunting, and even if you do find one, you may be placed on a waitlist. Dip your toes in the water with the Gottman Relationship Adviser. This unparalleled approach to relationship wellness is a completely digital self-paced program that can help you and your partner improve your relationship on your schedule, from anywhere, without ever seeing a therapist.
Already in couples therapy or actively working on your connection, but want more ways to improve your relationship?
The Gottman Relationship Adviser is an excellent addition to your regular therapy sessions. This research-based assessment and solution tool measures your relationship health with a self-assessment, then provides a tailored, step-by-step digital program proven to heal and strengthen your connection.
Tired of getting into arguments? Fighting about the same things over and over? Worried your relationship is at risk?
The Gottman Relationship Adviser can help. This complete relationship wellness tool is designed to assess exactly where your relationship needs help, then provides you with a detailed, step-by-step action plan to improve it.
Does your partner refuse to attend couples therapy? Are you feeling helpless and not sure where to turn for relationship advice?
Try the Gottman Relationship Adviser. This unparalleled approach to relationship wellness is a completely digital self-paced program that can help you and your partner improve your relationship on your schedule, from anywhere, without ever seeing a therapist.
Can I take the assessment alone?
You can use the Gottman Relationship Adviser individually or with your partner to get a full snapshot of your relationship along with a personalized relationship improvement plan based on your unique needs.
Want to do more to improve your relationship, but don’t know where to start?
Try the new and improved Gottman Relationship Adviser.
Curious what kinds of questions are asked in the Adviser?
Here are just a few of the 100+ questions designed for a detailed analysis of your relationship. You’ll answer most questions with true or false or a sliding scale, depending on the question format.
My partner appreciates the things I do in our relationship.
When my partner is feeling bad, I am willing to meet their needs.
My partner discusses problems in a calm and logical manner.
We keep talking about the same issue over and over with no resolution.
When we are burned out or tired, we have ways of becoming renewed together.
A Happier Relationship Starts Today
Subscribe to Gottman Love Notes and get regular relationship tips and resources from the experts, plus a monthly free couples exercise and access to special pricing on Gottman products.
Meet the Gottmans
Drs. John and Julie Gottman have devoted their lives to helping couples build lasting, healthy relationships. Their 50+ years of research powers the Gottman Relationship Adviser, providing you with a tool grounded in decades of expertise.