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What to Do When You Disagree

Jenny TeGrotenhuis

Repair happens when we build bridges of validation that connect us, deepening our sense of belonging and security.

The Attunement Bridge: Healing From an Affair

Jenny TeGrotenhuis

Many factors contribute to recovery from a relational rupture.

Warm Weather Rituals of Connection: Ideas for Couples and Families

Carla Sparks

Here's a list of warm weather activities to try together!

Creating a Financial Vision for Your Stepfamily During COVID-19

Terry Gaspard

Having open, honest conversations about finances will keep families grounded in the trust that grows out of a shared understanding.

Neutrality is Invalidation

Jenny TeGrotenhuis

Invalidation is a form of relational trauma which, over time, harms the brain and nervous system, and also results in the disintegration of any healthy bonds of connection, and dissolution of trust in others. Healing requires the slow, ongoing work of diligent growth in character, self-awareness, and love.

Opinion: Gottman’s Four Rules and the Need for Diversity

Shantel Patu

Listen to the women. Listen to the people of color.

The Unexpected Joys of ‘Parenting-in-Place’

Lucy Fry

There is no avoiding the tragic reality of this pandemic, yet we can hold such reality more easily when set alongside the glorious simplicity of childhood play.

Intimacy and Space

Lucy Fry

Why We Need Both and Just Enough

Under Stress, We All Regress

Jenny TeGrotenhuis

A story of how compassion helped a family find relief when stressful conditions activated trauma triggers and coping mechanisms.

For Better or for Worse: Conflict and Connecting in Crisis

Anna Aslanian

Understanding and adjusting to emotional needs in the midst of uncertainty.

Coping with Uncertainty During COVID-19: An International Gottman Trainer Shares Their Perspective

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Living Apart With Love

Lucy Fry

Mindfully managing co-parenting from separate households during shelter-in-place conditions.

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