Small Things Often

Welcome to Small Things Often, a podcast from The Gottman Institute Successful long-term relationships are created through small words, small … Continued

Making Gottman Concepts Teachable for Kids

Help kids connect with their peers using Gottman-based exercises

How to Attract Your Ideal Client as a Gottman Couples Therapist: An Interview with Joe Sanok, MA, LLP, LCC, Part II

A detailed knowledge of who you want to attract helps you decide where you dedicate your energy and time.

What is My Heart Saying?

Here is a simple exercise to get out of your head and back into your heart.

Building Your Marriage on the Four Foundations of Mindfulness

Putting these into practice will put you in touch with your body, feelings, and mind.

How S&M Can Strengthen Your Relationship

No, I am not referring to Fifty Shades of Grey sadism and masochism.

The Four Horsemen: Stonewalling

The last, but certainly not least, of the Four Horsemen is stonewalling.

Does Flooding Play a Role in Your Perpetual Conflict?

Is your fight-or-flight response keeping you stuck in an unhealthy cycle of conflict?

Manage Conflict – Part 4

Managing conflict isn’t simply about being aware of and intentional about your thoughts and your words.

Conversational Boundaries without Stonewalling

Difficult conversations can lead to flooding. Here are steps to remain calm while staying present for yourself and your partner.

Mindfulness Tips for Hard Conversations

You can do more than “agree to disagree.” Learn how to communicate with shared humanity and boundaries in mind.

Under Stress, We All Regress

A story of how compassion helped a family find relief when stressful conditions activated trauma triggers and coping mechanisms.

How to Use Mindfulness to Strengthen Your Relationships

No matter how versed you are in the art of awareness, your sincere efforts to explore the present moment go a long way in bringing you and your partner closer.

How I Almost Quit Couples Therapy—and Love—Until Mindfulness Saved Me

Our ability to observe the workings of our mind, challenge our stories, and see what is really happening is a major predictor of happiness.

Holding Hands with Loved Ones Creates Interpersonal Synchronization

When the couple was sitting next to each other holding hands, the brainwave sync was the strongest. How incredible is that?

Teach Your Kids the Value of Self-Care by Creating Healthy Habits

Children, just like adults, benefit greatly from consistent and deliberate self-care activities.

Mindful Parenting: How to Respond Instead of React

Mindful parenting means that you bring your conscious attention to what’s happening, instead of getting hijacked by your emotions.

Trust in Relationships is Built and Broken in Everyday Conversation

Intimate conversation is about sharing closeness and solidifying emotional bonds.

Understanding Must Precede Advice

Learn how to use conflict as an opportunity to understand and get to know each other better is a vital part of attunement.

How to Handle Anger in Your Relationship

Next time you get angry, stop and think about why you’re angry.

How to Mindfully Meditate in Marriage

Mindfulness meditation is not just about relaxation.

Combat Stonewalling with Self-Care

Nip stonewalling in the bud with a healthy alternative. The antidote to stonewalling is self-soothing.

Homework Assignment: Humor

We begin today’s Weekend Homework Assignment with a short history of humor! Read it for context on our exploration of its role in human relationships, and to gain a deeper understanding not only of our approach to humor, but of your own.

Intimate Conversations and Collective Monologue

Stop having superficial conversations where you’re talking but not communicating.

How to Practice Self-Soothing

Remember: the ability to self-soothe is one of the most important skills you can learn. Practicing it can help you not only in romantic relationships, but in all other areas of your life.

Activities to Help You Manage Conflict

Conflict is inevitable, but these tips serve as a jumping off point to managing it well.

Homework Assignment: Learn To Trust Yourself

Trusting our partners is not the same thing as giving up all control.

The Dark Side of Anger: What Every Couple Should Know

It is easier to handle those emotions when we understand what is underneath them.

The Digital Age: Life, Uninterrupted

Here are some thoughts that may help you imagine ways to take the digital breaks you need to enjoy all … Continued

Y is for Yes

Yes is a word that does more than answer a question. It creates opportunity and invites possibility. 

Taking Care of the Caretaker in Your Life

Show your love and support for the one who helps everyone else

#AskGottman: Affairs Answers

As always, remember that these answers are intended to be psycho-educational. If you would like to speak with a professional … Continued

How to Work from Home and Supervise Home-Based Learning (Part 2)

You can manage your work and your child’s schooling when everyone is home. Here’s how.

How to Heal from Past Relationships

What role did the Four Horsemen, relationship phases, flooding, and perpetual problems play in your past relationships?

Betrayal Trauma in Addiction

Betrayal trauma hits the foundation of the person and the relationship—trust.

Sleeping With the “Enemy”: Navigating Relationships in the #MeToo Era

Identifying what I needed helped release and transform vicarious trauma into post-traumatic growth.

Can Words Really Hurt Me?

Sticks and stones may break my bones, but can words really hurt me?

How to Stay Connected as a Couple Through the Holidays

Having a joyful, connected holiday season is absolutely possible.