Kyle Benson

Kyle is a couples therapist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. He loves nerding out on the science of relationships. When not highlighting research on a Sunday morning in his bathrobe, Kyle enjoys writing for his blog Kylebenson.net where he takes the research on successful relationships and transforms them into practical tools for romantic partners.

Kyle's Posts

5 Tips to Improve Sex (from a Sex Therapist)

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Improving sexual intimacy requires developing emotional and sexual intelligence. It also requires planning (even if that doesn't sound sexy!) ...

Head vs. Heart: Solving Meta-Emotion Mismatches for a Stronger Bond

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The Secret Ingredient to a Thriving Relationship: Turning Towards Each Other

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How to Listen Without Getting Defensive

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Here's the key to listening non-defensively. ...

How to Stress-Proof Your Relationship This Holiday Season

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Cultivate an attitude of gratitude around your partner and loved ones during the holidays. ...

The Negativity Thermostat: Why Adjusting the Temperature Early Can Save Your Relationship Later

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The secret to keeping things comfortable, calm, and connected is to address the uncomfortable issues that pull you two apart. ...

How to Find a Couples Therapist Who Can Actually Help You

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Tips to help you find a competent and effective couples therapist. ...

Is it Time to Go to Couples Counseling?

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There are telltale signs that signal you and your partner could benefit from couples counseling. ...

5 Steps to Inspire Your Partner to Join You in Attending Couples Therapy

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When approaching your partner about attending couples therapy, you are likely to meet resistance. Work past their resistance with these tips. ...

How We Used the Aftermath of a Fight to Repair Our Relationship

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Every conflict offers an opportunity for a deeper understanding. ...

Understanding Your Partner’s Attachment Style: An Interview with Stan Tatkin

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The environment of our upbringing influences the way we love and expect to be loved. ...

Attachment and Differentiation in Relationships: An Interview with Ellyn Bader, Ph.D.

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Differentiation requires the risk of being open to growth and being honest not only with your partner, but also with yourself. ...

The Magic Relationship Ratio, According to Science

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That “magic ratio” is 5 to 1. This means that for every negative interaction during conflict, a stable and happy marriage ...

Stable Instability in Relationships: An Interview with Amir Levine Part II

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If you can recognize secure partners early on while dating, you’ll navigate the dating world much better and likely find yourself ...

Breaking the Pursue-Withdraw Pattern: An Interview with Scott R. Woolley, Ph.D.

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The pursue-withdraw pattern is an extremely common cause of divorce. If left unresolved, it will continue into a second marriage and ...