Ellie Lisitsa

In Monday’s post on The Gottman Relationship Blog, Zach Brittle took on two of Dr. Gottman’s 4 Horsemen – Contempt and Criticism – in a well articulated and compelling argument for personal accountability and compassion. Today, we invite you to consider Monday's post in the context of our current series on self care!

This week on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we’ve discussed friendship in the context of self care, first sharing Dr. Gottman’s guide to recognizing bids, and second by providing you with a list of ways tostrengthen friendshipswith a little TLC!

Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we begin with a visualization exercise. Humor us by following these instructions: Stop and think about some of the happiest moments in your life.

In this week's Weekend Homework Assignment on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we would like to bring your attention to something obvious: When you can’t stay sane, your relationship can’t either.

When we talk to our closest friends about our problems, what we want most from them is their understanding and support.

Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we'd like to share an article from The Huffington Post directly relating to our current theme: self care.

This week on the Gottman Relationship Blog, we've been talking about conflict and self care. Today, as promised on Wednesday, we bring you a related Weekend Homework Assignment written by Dr. John Gottman himself.

In Monday’s post on The Gottman Relationship Blog, Zach Brittle began his Relationship Alphabet column with the letter "A."

Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we welcome you into 2014! We welcome you into a year filled with potential for finding and nurturing great love, warmth, and connection.

Happy New Year's Eve! Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we'd like to talk about New Year's Resolutions. 

Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we take a break from our regularly scheduled programming to share an article of interest – an opinion piece from The New York Times

As we discussed on Wednesday, the holidays do not need to be a time of anxiety and suffering. 

Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we’d like to talk about bank accounts. 

Happy belated Thanksgiving to all of our readers that celebrated over the weekend. We hope you had a good one! If you're enjoying family time and seeing friends, we hope that you’re feeling fulfilled and loved.

With Thanksgiving nearly upon us, we break from our regularly scheduled programming on The Gottman Relationship Blog to share an article from The Huffington Post featuring our 5:1 ratio for happy partnerships.

When it comes to parenting, lowered expectations and increased distances are toxic. What can we do? As parents, have power. With great power comes great responsibility! 

Regardless of age, the entanglement of virtual communication and social media is transforming our experience of reality. 

Virtual communication seduces us, offering a myriad of momentary pleasures as the immediacy of response provides instant gratification.

You may have heard the old adage, “The opposite of love is not hate, it’s indifference.” In today’s cyberworld, children are being exposed to messages that teach them apathy, not empathy. 

The fifth and final step of Emotion Coaching according to Dr. John Gottman is to set limits while helping your child to problem solve

In theory, it seems obvious that human kindness is just as necessary online as offline. For some reason, when interacting with others on the web, this becomes easy to forget.

Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we would like to share an article with you by Michelle Healy of USA Today.

Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we are excited to feature a guest posting from Gottman Bringing Baby Home (BBH) Educator Kim Brickwood.

In the Digital Age, kids may learn quick and easy relationship skills online, building rudimentary, occasionally fulfilling connections using virtual technology. 

As Zach Brittle mentioned on Wednesday, the second step of Emotion Coaching, according to Dr. John Gottman, is to see your child’s expressions of emotion as opportunities for teaching and intimacy.

Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we are thrilled to invite back Zach Brittle, LMHC, who we featured as a guest blogger back in September.

When it really comes down to it, empathy is about understanding someone else’s emotions.  The capacity for changing perspective and sharing another’s experience vicariously, as if you were in their place. 

In last Friday’s posting on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we promised to dive into a deeper explanation of Emotion Coaching, reviewing strategies that you can use to build bonds of trust, respect, and mutual understanding with your kids.

To continue our last chapter of our series on relationships in the Digital Age, we’d like to introduce you (or reintroduce you!) to the basics of Emotion Coaching, Dr. Gottman’s five step program for raising emotionally intelligent kids.

In our last post on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we introduced the topic of Conflict in Cyberspace. Today, we would like to explore the subject in greater depth.

In relationships that are working well, the couple's interaction style is constructive, affirming, and enjoyable. 

We’ve all been in the middle of an argument that we know we cannot win, understanding that our frustration has overwhelmed all sense of perspective. 

Dr. Gottman’s research on trust is groundbreaking. Widely recognized as the world’s foremost researcher on marriage and relationships, his intuition and natural ease with people are not his only gifts.