How To Share Compassion & Empathy in Intimate Conversation
What Makes Same-Sex Relationships Succeed Or Fail?
Trust in Relationships is Built and Broken in Everyday Conversation
Dr. Gottman’s 3 Skills (and 1 Rule!) for Intimate Conversation
Homework Assignment: Learn To Trust Yourself
Combat Stonewalling with Self-Care
The Trouble with Contempt
Accepting Responsibility
Homework Assignment: Connect With Your Friends
Ways To Turn Towards Your Friends
Dr. Gottman’s Guide to Recognizing Bids
Homework Assignment: Improve Your Relationship By Focusing on You
Statements That Deepen Connection
Emotional Attunement
Homework Assignment: Thanksgiving Every Day
Arguments and Self-Care
Homework Assignment: Self-Care (Who Am I?)
Building Family Culture: Holiday Stories That Connect
Dr. John Gottman’s Tips for Creating Your Own Holiday Rituals
Homework Assignment: Make the Holidays Your Own!
Holiday Gifts That Connect: Can’t Buy Me Love!
Sliding Door Moments: The Holidays
Thanksgiving: A List Of Minor Bids for Connection
The Digital Age: With Great Power Comes Great Responsibility
The Digital Age: Trouble in Utopia
The Digital Age: Invalidating Indifference
Setting Limits Using Emotion Coaching
The Digital Age: Labeling Emotions
The Digital Age: Communicating With Your Kids
The Digital Age: Bringing Baby Home
The Digital Age: Slowing Down
The Digital Age: Emotion Coaching & Empathy
How to Engage in Emotion Coaching
The Digital Age: Two Realities
The Digital Age: Who Am I?
The Digital Age: How Has It Changed Your Life?
Homework Assignment: Choosing Better
The Digital Age: Building Intimacy
The Digital Age: Long-Distance Relationships
The Digital Age: 10 Tips for Avoiding Conflict in Cyberspace
The Digital Age: What’s Beneath the Conflict?
In our last post on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we introduced the topic of Conflict in Cyberspace. Today, we would like to explore the subject in greater depth.
The Digital Age: Conflict in Cyberspace
Homework Assignment: Bids in the Digital Age
Self-Care: Cherishing Yourself And Your Relationship
Timeless Tips for Sleeping Well
Bringing Baby Home: The Research
Summer Romance: Turning Towards
Finding Common Ground: Homework Assignment
Finding Common Ground: The Harvard Negotiation Project
Emotional Attraction: Maintaining Connection in Conflict Discussions
How to Have A Stress-Reducing Conversation
Emotional Attraction: The Stress-Reducing Conversation
Desire in a Long-Term Relationship
An Introduction to the Gottman Method of Relationship Therapy
How to Practice Self-Soothing
The Four Horsemen: Stonewalling
The Four Horsemen: Contempt
The Four Horsemen: Defensiveness
The Four Horsemen: Criticism
The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling
The Workplace: Rituals of Connection with Coworkers
The Workplace: Things To Do Together
The Workplace: How Your Past Influences Your Connections with Coworkers
The Workplace: The Emotional Communication Game
Homework Assignment: Turn Toward Your Coworkers
Homework Assignment: Spring Cleaning
The Research: Linkages Between Parent-Child Interaction and Conversations of Friends
How to Fight Smarter: Soften Your Start-Up
Predicting Divorce From The First 3 Minutes of Conflict Discussion
Homework Assignment: How Marital Conflict Affects Children
Physiological Self-Soothing
The Research: Physiological and Affective Predictors of Change in Relationship Satisfaction Part II
In relationships that are working well, the couple's interaction style is constructive, affirming, and enjoyable.
The Research: Physiological and Affective Predictors of Change in Relationship Satisfaction
The Research: Predicting Divorce from an Oral History Interview Part II
The Research: Predicting Divorce from an Oral History Interview
Apply The Research: Building Your Emotional Bank Account
The Research: Behavior Exchange Theory and Marital Decision Making
Valentine’s Day: The Gottman Way
Create Shared Meaning: Suggestions from Dr. Gottman
Create Shared Meaning: Rituals for the Family
Create Shared Meaning: Examining Your Rituals
Make Life Dreams Come True: Trusting Each Other
Make Life Dreams Come True: Self-Discovery
Make Life Dreams Come True: Dreams Within Conflict
Manage Conflict: Moving Forward
Manage Conflict: Identifying Your Triggers
Manage Conflict: The Aftermath of a Fight
Homework Assignment: Compromise
Manage Conflict: The Art of Compromise
We’ve all been in the middle of an argument that we know we cannot win, understanding that our frustration has overwhelmed all sense of perspective.
Manage Conflict: Repair and De-Escalate
Six Tips for the Six Skills of Managing Conflict
Build a Culture of Appreciation
The Positive Perspective: More on the 5:1 Ratio
The Sound Relationship House: The Positive Perspective
The Sound Relationship House: Turn Towards Instead of Away
Love Quiz: Fondness and Admiration
The Sound Relationship House: Build Love Maps
Date Night in a Jar
How to Know Your Bids
What “Turning Against” Really Means
Turning Against Bids: A Relationship Killer
The Mechanics of Bidding: Messages You Don’t Even Know You’re Sending
A Deeper Look Into Turning Away From Your Partner
A Deeper Look Into Turning Towards Your Partner
How to Set Goals for Self-Care
Building Trust In Stressful Times
Mindfulness in Emotional Moments
An Introduction to Emotional Bids and Trust
Expressing Compassion and Empathy
Following Up With Statements That Deepen Connection
Put Feelings Into Words and Ask Open-Ended Questions
Intimate Conversations and Collective Monologue
Building Bridges
The Zeigarnik Effect
Love Quiz: Are You Experiencing Negative Sentiment Override?
‘Sliding Door’ Moments
Exclusive Interview With John Gottman
The Three Boxes
Inside the Love Lab
Dr. Gottman’s research on trust is groundbreaking. Widely recognized as the world’s foremost researcher on marriage and relationships, his intuition and natural ease with people are not his only gifts.