How To Share Compassion & Empathy in Intimate Conversation
Trust in Relationships is Built and Broken in Everyday Conversation
Dr. Gottman’s 3 Skills (and 1 Rule!) for Intimate Conversation
Combat Stonewalling with Self-Care
The Trouble with Contempt
Accepting Responsibility
Self Care: The Four Horsemen
In Monday’s post on The Gottman Relationship Blog, Zach Brittle took on two of Dr. Gottman’s 4 Horsemen – Contempt and Criticism – in a well articulated and compelling argument for personal accountability and compassion. Today, we invite you to consider Monday's post in the context of our current series on self care!
Homework Assignment: Connect With Your Friends
This week on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we’ve discussed friendship in the context of self care, first sharing Dr. Gottman’s guide to recognizing bids, and second by providing you with a list of ways tostrengthen friendshipswith a little TLC!
Ways To Turn Towards Your Friends
Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we begin with a visualization exercise. Humor us by following these instructions: Stop and think about some of the happiest moments in your life.
Dr. Gottman’s Guide to Recognizing Bids
Homework Assignment: Improve Your Relationship With Selfishness
In this week's Weekend Homework Assignment on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we would like to bring your attention to something obvious: When you can’t stay sane, your relationship can’t either.
Statements That Deepen Connection
When we talk to our closest friends about our problems, what we want most from them is their understanding and support.
Self-Care: Responsibility and Review!
Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we'd like to share an article from The Huffington Post directly relating to our current theme: self care.
Homework Assignment: Thanksgiving Every Day
This week on the Gottman Relationship Blog, we've been talking about conflict and self care. Today, as promised on Wednesday, we bring you a related Weekend Homework Assignment written by Dr. John Gottman himself.
Arguments and Self-Care
In Monday’s post on The Gottman Relationship Blog, Zach Brittle began his Relationship Alphabet column with the letter "A."
Homework Assignment: Self-Care (Who Am I?)
Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we welcome you into 2014! We welcome you into a year filled with potential for finding and nurturing great love, warmth, and connection.
New Year’s Relationship Resolutions
Happy New Year's Eve! Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we'd like to talk about New Year's Resolutions.
Building Family Culture: Holiday Stories That Connect
Selfies, Sherry Turkle, and Turning Towards
Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we take a break from our regularly scheduled programming to share an article of interest – an opinion piece from The New York Times
Homework Assignment: Make the Holidays Your Own!
As we discussed on Wednesday, the holidays do not need to be a time of anxiety and suffering.
Holiday Gifts That Connect: Can’t Buy Me Love!
Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we’d like to talk about bank accounts.
“An Attitude of Gratitude” and the 5:1 Ratio During The Holidays
Sliding Door Moments: The Holidays
Happy belated Thanksgiving to all of our readers that celebrated over the weekend. We hope you had a good one! If you're enjoying family time and seeing friends, we hope that you’re feeling fulfilled and loved.
Turn Adversaries Into Allies: Be A Wreath
With Thanksgiving nearly upon us, we break from our regularly scheduled programming on The Gottman Relationship Blog to share an article from The Huffington Post featuring our 5:1 ratio for happy partnerships.
The Digital Age: With Great Power Comes Great Responsibility
When it comes to parenting, lowered expectations and increased distances are toxic. What can we do? As parents, have power. With great power comes great responsibility!
The Digital Age: Empathy In Utopia
Regardless of age, the entanglement of virtual communication and social media is transforming our experience of reality.
The Digital Age: A Sense Of Urgency
Virtual communication seduces us, offering a myriad of momentary pleasures as the immediacy of response provides instant gratification.
The Digital Age: Invalidating Indifference
You may have heard the old adage, “The opposite of love is not hate, it’s indifference.” In today’s cyberworld, children are being exposed to messages that teach them apathy, not empathy.
The Digital Age: Emotion Coaching Step V
The fifth and final step of Emotion Coaching according to Dr. John Gottman is to set limits while helping your child to problem solve
The Digital Age: Communicating With Your Kids
In theory, it seems obvious that human kindness is just as necessary online as offline. For some reason, when interacting with others on the web, this becomes easy to forget.
The Digital Age: Your Kid’s Media Plan
Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we would like to share an article with you by Michelle Healy of USA Today.
The Digital Age: Bringing Baby Home
Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we are excited to feature a guest posting from Gottman Bringing Baby Home (BBH) Educator Kim Brickwood.
The Digital Age: Slowing Down
In the Digital Age, kids may learn quick and easy relationship skills online, building rudimentary, occasionally fulfilling connections using virtual technology.
The Digital Age: Emotion Coaching Step II
As Zach Brittle mentioned on Wednesday, the second step of Emotion Coaching, according to Dr. John Gottman, is to see your child’s expressions of emotion as opportunities for teaching and intimacy.
The Digital Age: 3 Reasons I Am A Terrible Emotion Coach
Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we are thrilled to invite back Zach Brittle, LMHC, who we featured as a guest blogger back in September.
The Digital Age: Emotion Coaching & Empathy Part II
When it really comes down to it, empathy is about understanding someone else’s emotions. The capacity for changing perspective and sharing another’s experience vicariously, as if you were in their place.
The Digital Age: Emotion Coaching & Empathy
In last Friday’s posting on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we promised to dive into a deeper explanation of Emotion Coaching, reviewing strategies that you can use to build bonds of trust, respect, and mutual understanding with your kids.
The Digital Age: Emotion Coaching
To continue our last chapter of our series on relationships in the Digital Age, we’d like to introduce you (or reintroduce you!) to the basics of Emotion Coaching, Dr. Gottman’s five step program for raising emotionally intelligent kids.
The Digital Age: Two Realities
The Digital Age: Who Am I?
The Digital Age: How Has It Changed Your Life?
Homework Assignment: Choosing Better
The Digital Age: Building Intimacy
The Digital Age: Long-Distance Relationships
The Digital Age: 10 Tips for Avoiding Conflict in Cyberspace
The Digital Age: What’s Beneath the Conflict?
In our last post on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we introduced the topic of Conflict in Cyberspace. Today, we would like to explore the subject in greater depth.
The Digital Age: Conflict in Cyberspace
Homework Assignment: Bids in the Digital Age
Self-Care: Cherishing Yourself And Your Relationship
Timeless Tips for Sleeping Well
Bringing Baby Home: The Research
Summer Romance: Turning Towards
Finding Common Ground: Homework Assignment
Finding Common Ground: The Harvard Negotiation Project
Emotional Attraction: Maintaining Connection in Conflict Discussions
How to Have A Stress-Reducing Conversation
Emotional Attraction: The Stress-Reducing Conversation
Desire in a Long-Term Relationship
An Introduction to the Gottman Method of Relationship Therapy
How to Practice Self-Soothing
The Four Horsemen: Stonewalling
The Four Horsemen: Contempt
The Four Horsemen: Defensiveness
The Four Horsemen: Criticism
The Four Horsemen: The Antidotes
The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling
The Workplace: Rituals of Connection with Coworkers
The Workplace: The Delicate Art of Giving Feedback
The Workplace: What Does Your Job Mean To You?
The Workplace: Things To Do Together
The Workplace: How Your Past Influences Your Connections with Coworkers
The Workplace: The Emotional Communication Game
Homework Assignment: Turn Toward Your Coworkers
The Workplace: The Ideal Praise-to-Criticism Ratio
Homework Assignment: Spring Cleaning
The Research: Linkages Between Parent-Child Interaction and Conversations of Friends
How to Fight Smarter: Soften Your Start-Up
Predicting Divorce From The First 3 Minutes of Conflict Discussion
Homework Assignment: How Marital Conflict Affects Children
Physiological Self-Soothing
The Research: Physiological and Affective Predictors of Change in Relationship Satisfaction Part II
In relationships that are working well, the couple's interaction style is constructive, affirming, and enjoyable.
The Research: Physiological and Affective Predictors of Change in Relationship Satisfaction
The Research: Predicting Divorce from an Oral History Interview Part II
The Research: Predicting Divorce from an Oral History Interview
Apply The Research: Building Your Emotional Bank Account
The Research: Behavior Exchange Theory and Marital Decision Making
Valentine’s Day: The Gottman Way
Create Shared Meaning: Suggestions from Dr. Gottman
Create Shared Meaning: Rituals for the Family
Create Shared Meaning: Examining Your Rituals
Make Life Dreams Come True: Trusting Each Other
Make Life Dreams Come True: Self-Discovery
Make Life Dreams Come True: Dreams Within Conflict
Manage Conflict: Moving Forward
Manage Conflict: Identifying Your Triggers
Manage Conflict: The Aftermath of a Fight
Homework Assignment: Compromise
Manage Conflict: The Art of Compromise
We’ve all been in the middle of an argument that we know we cannot win, understanding that our frustration has overwhelmed all sense of perspective.
Manage Conflict: Repair and De-Escalate
Six Tips for the Six Skills of Managing Conflict
Build a Culture of Appreciation
The Positive Perspective: More on the 5:1 Ratio
The Sound Relationship House: The Positive Perspective
5 Tips for Filling Your Holiday Season with Romance
The Sound Relationship House: Turn Towards Instead of Away
Love Quiz: Fondness and Admiration
The Sound Relationship House: Build Love Maps
Date Night in a Jar
How to Know Your Bids
What “Turning Against” Really Means
Turning Against Bids: The Ultimate Relationship Killer
The Mechanics of Bidding: Messages You Don’t Even Know You’re Sending
A Deeper Look Into Turning Away From Your Partner
A Deeper Look Into Turning Towards Your Partner
How to Set Goals for Self-Care
Building Trust In Stressful Times
Mindfulness in Emotional Moments
An Introduction to Emotional Bids and Trust
Expressing Compassion and Empathy
Following Up With Statements That Deepen Connection
Put Feelings Into Words and Ask Open-Ended Questions
Intimate Conversations and Collective Monologue
Building Bridges
The Zeigarnik Effect
Love Quiz: Are You Experiencing Negative Sentiment Override?
‘Sliding Door’ Moments
Exclusive Interview With John Gottman
The Three Boxes
Inside the Love Lab
Dr. Gottman’s research on trust is groundbreaking. Widely recognized as the world’s foremost researcher on marriage and relationships, his intuition and natural ease with people are not his only gifts.