The Four Horsemen: Contempt
Contempt is the worst of the four horsemen. It is the number one predictor of divorce, but it can be defeated.
The Four Horsemen: Defensiveness
Defensiveness is really a way of blaming your partner.
The Four Horsemen: Criticism
The first of the Four Horsemen, and likely the most common, is criticism.
The Four Horsemen: The Antidotes
Luckily, for every Horseman of the Apocalypse, there is an antidote, and you can learn how and when to use them below.
The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling
Being able to identify the Four Horsemen in your conflict discussions is a necessary first step to eliminating them and replacing them with healthy, productive communication patterns.
The Sound Relationship House: The Positive Perspective
A fundamental principle of maintaining The Positive Perspective in your relationship is to let your partner influence you.
The Three Boxes
Drs. John and Julie Gottman divides the behaviors of conversing couples into three clear boxes: Nice, Neutral, and Nasty.