Contempt is the worst of the four horsemen. It is the number one predictor of divorce, but it can be defeated.
Defensiveness is really a way of blaming your partner.
The first of the Four Horsemen, and likely the most common, is criticism.
Luckily, for every Horseman of the Apocalypse, there is an antidote, and you can learn how and when to use them below.
Being able to identify the Four Horsemen in your conflict discussions is a necessary first step to eliminating them and replacing them with healthy, productive communication patterns.
A fundamental principle of maintaining The Positive Perspective in your relationship is to let your partner influence you.
Drs. John and Julie Gottman divides the behaviors of conversing couples into three clear boxes: Nice, Neutral, and Nasty.