Accepting Responsibility
When it comes to your problems as a couple, ditch defensiveness and learn how to accept responsibility for your role. Here's how.
D is for Defensiveness
Defensiveness is a wicked game. But it’s winnable.
What Healthy Couples Know About Handling Conflict
Learn how to implicitly communicate with your partner
Self-Care vs. Criticism
Part of taking care of yourself and your partner is learning how to avoid the use of criticism.
C is for Contempt & Criticism
"Hold your horses" and learn why contempt and criticism won't get you what you want.
The Four Horsemen: Stonewalling
The last, but certainly not least, of the Four Horsemen is stonewalling.
The Four Horsemen: Contempt
Contempt is the worst of the four horsemen. It is the number one predictor of divorce, but it can be defeated.
The Four Horsemen: Defensiveness
Defensiveness is really a way of blaming your partner.
The Four Horsemen: Criticism
The first of the Four Horsemen, and likely the most common, is criticism.
The Four Horsemen: The Antidotes
Luckily, for every Horseman of the Apocalypse, there is an antidote.
The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling
Being able to identify the Four Horsemen in your conflict discussions is a necessary first step to eliminating them and replacing them with healthy, productive communication patterns.
The Sound Relationship House: The Positive Perspective
A fundamental principle of maintaining The Positive Perspective in your relationship is to let your partner influence you.