Love & Relationships

All successful relationships are built on the same premise: The Sound Relationship House theory by Drs. John and Julie Gottman.

Love on a Tuesday Afternoon

Laura Silverstein

On the 30th anniversary of The Gottman Institute, we reflect on the things that have and haven't changed in relationship science.

How to Deal With a Narcissist

Alexander Elguren

How to deal with a narcissist, grounded in Gottman's research: spotting contempt, easing flooding, and noticing whether repair is possible between you.

Can a Narcissist Change? What the Research Says About Real Transformation

Alexander Elguren

Wondering if your partner can change? Learn what the research actually shows about whether a narcissist can change and how to recognize real shifts.

Hyperfixation in Relationships

Alexander Elguren

Hyperfixation can feel exactly like falling in love, until it fades. Here is what it is, why it happens, and how couples build the love that lasts.

How to Stay Connected as a Couple During the Summer

The Gottman Institute

Summer can bring changes to routines and increased stressors. Use the time to connect with your partner while making memories as a family.

Emotional Manipulation: Signs You Shouldn’t Ignore

The Gottman Institute

Understand what emotional manipulation looks like in relationships and how to handle it.

John Gottman on Fatherhood

The Gottman Institute

Your role as a father is undeniably important. Use this day to take care of yourself and connect with loved ones.

What Does ‘Estranged’ Actually Mean? Estrangement in Families and Marriages, Explained

Alexander Elguren

Estrangement rarely arrives as a slammed door. More often it is a room that slowly empties while everyone is still standing in it.

Covert Narcissist Traits: 9 Quiet Signs Most People Miss

Alexander Elguren

The loud kind is easy to recognize. The covert kind hides behind sensitivity itself — which is why it so often goes unnamed.

How to Get Over Someone: Healing After Heartbreak

Alexander Elguren

Some loves end — that is the hard truth. Getting over one turns out to be less about waiting it out than about relearning a skill.

10 Real-World Examples of Gaslighting in Relationships (and How to Spot Each One)

Alexander Elguren

The cruelest part isn't the lie. It's that you slowly start to believe you're the one who's wrong.

What Is Reactive Abuse…And Can It Be Prevented?

Laura Silverstein

Understanding the dynamic that leads to this escalation is critical in effectively dealing with it.

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