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All successful relationships are built on the same premise: The Sound Relationship House theory by Drs. John and Julie Gottman.

A woman leans over her partner as they lie close together on a bed.

Out of Touch: A Couple’s Way Back to Desire

Alexander Elguren

Are we trying too hard to have more sex? How couples can make room for pleasure without adding pressure.

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A woman rests against a man as he kisses the top of her head.

We Agreed. Why Are We Having This Argument Again?

Alexander Elguren

In relationship conflict, we often start persuading before we’ve finished listening. Understanding the three stages of a fight can change how we handle the next one.

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A woman sits on a mustard-colored sofa while a man stands behind her.

Who Has to Calm Down First?

Alexander Elguren

One partner wants to keep talking. The other can’t take in another word. How couples can practice emotional regulation when they disagree about how to disagree.

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A couples therapist trying to do notes while meeting a couple in session.

5 Admin Tasks Stealing Therapist’s Time

Lauren Turnbull

Discover the 5 admin tasks that take up therapists’ time and practical strategies to streamline your practice, reduce burnout, and focus on clients.

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A woman embraces a seated man, resting her face against his cheek.

Have We Been Thinking About Fidelity Too Narrowly?

Alexander Elguren

Micro-cheating is a newer term. John Gottman has long described the betrayals we overlook when we think only about affairs.

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Therapist works with a couple to change negative communication patterns.

When Therapy Speak Becomes a Weapon

Dana McNeil

When couples start labeling one another with 'therapy speak', the therapist must intervene and teach couples to use it productively.

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Emotional cheating: a woman alone at a coffee-shop table, hand against her cheek, behind a dark pillar

How a Coffee-Shop Friendship Can Turn Into Emotional Cheating

Alexander Elguren

He told himself it was innocent. He didn't tell his wife.

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A woman with curly dark hair in a white shirt looks at the camera while a man in a dark shirt holds her from behind, his face turned toward her.

The Sex Stopped. Neither of Them Said Anything.

Alexander Elguren

Why revealing yourself matters more than revealing lingerie.

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Four people at a dinner table by an open window at sunset, one couple looking at a book together while the other two sit apart

You Still Get Along. It Might Still Be Roommate Syndrome.

Alexander Elguren

What the Term Means, and Why Marriages Like These Can Have a Renaissance.

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A couple at a dark table, each looking down at a phone, not at each other

Phubbing Is Rarely Malice. It Still Can Hurt.

Alexander Elguren

What the Word Means, and When It Becomes a Problem Between You.

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A couple at a cafe window: she looks past the camera in sunglasses while he leans on the counter and looks toward her, the kind of moment a partner can read as emotionally unavailable.

When Your Partner Seems Emotionally Unavailable

Alexander Elguren

You are not imagining the distance. You may be misreading it.

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Situationship: a woman looks into the camera while a man sleeps against her back on a dark sofa

Situationship: Is Trust Growing or Just Time Passing?

Alexander Elguren

You may like each other. But nobody has said what this is.

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