The Archives

Drs. John and Julie Gottman on How Not to Ruin Your Relationship

The Gottman Institute

Listen to the Gottmans discuss the big and small things you can do to have a happy relationship

Small Things Often: The Best Episodes of Season 4

The Gottman Institute

Listen to the hand-picked favorites from season 4

What Causes Contempt in Relationships

Jinashree Rajendrakumar

How to spot contempt and what to do when it shows up

The Right Way to Complain

The Gottman Institute

Learn how to express your feelings without hurting your partner

Types of Criticism: Expressing Concern or Complaint without Harm

Kimberly Panganiban

Learn how to identify the first of the four horsemen

How to Avoid Passing Anxiety on to Your Kids

Child Mind Institute

Help yourself, and them, by learning techniques to manage stress in a healthy way

Get Back on Track During Conflict

The Gottman Institute

Turn arguments around and manage conflict with a few simple phrases.

Are You Losing You in the Relationship? Enmeshment, Detachment, and Differentiation

Jinashree Rajendrakumar

Though dysfunctional stability instills temporary peace, it limits living a whole relationship and life.

How to Build Love Maps

The Gottman Institute

What does it look like to stay curious about your partner?

This Valentine’s Day Burn Your Romance Novels

Cheryl Fraser

Don’t let a fictional soulmate make you miss the magic of your real-life relationship

The Impact of Social Media on Relationships

Genesis Games

Is social media a threat to your relationship wellness?

How To Feel Comfortable Expressing Sexual Desires With Your Partner

Kari Rusnak

Do you hate talking about sex? Here’s how to open up.

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