The Positive Perspective: More on the 5:1 Ratio

Watch this video of Dr. John Gottman explaining the 5:1 ratio.

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If applying the Gottman Method to your relationship is difficult, take your time. The skills that Drs. John and Julie Gottman found to be vital for keeping relationships stable and healthy are, as all things, mastered through practice, and change doesn’t happen overnight. Your hard work will pay off.

One of the key skills is the 5:1 ratio. The Relationship Blog covered it here, but learn more from Dr. John Gottman himself:

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Dr. Ellie Wilde

Ellie Wilde holds a PhD in Clinical Psychology, and is the founder of Whale Being Therapy, specializing in helping you build stronger, more connected relationships. Drawing on extensive training in trauma and nervous system support, she blends evidence-based somatic practices with creativity, play, and embodied imagination, helping you break free from stuck patterns and rediscover connection, awe, wonder, and joy.

Publish Date: December 5, 2012

Last Updated: July 13, 2026

The Positive Perspective: More on the 5:1 Ratio

Watch this video of Dr. John Gottman explaining the 5:1 ratio.

A Happier Relationship Starts Today

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