If you’ve been enjoying the Gottman Relationship Blog, but have been wishing to supplement your reading with something a little more hands-on, look no further. Please imagine us waving excitedly, possibly hopping up and down, and directing your attention to this.

Based on over 40 years of research with thousands of couples, The Art and Science of Love will give you new insights and research-based skills that can dramatically improve the intimacy and friendship in your relationship and help you manage conflict in a healthy, positive way.

If you have a good relationship, it will provide you with insights and tools to make it a great one. If your relationship is distressed, it will provide a road map for repair. Please note this educational workshop may not be appropriate for couples dealing with addiction, domestic violence, or other serious relationship issues. In those situations, we recommend seeking counseling with a Gottman-trained therapist.

Traditionally offered as an in-person experience, The Art and Science of Love is now available online to take from the comfort of your own home. 

Questions? We’re glad you asked.

Q: We’re happy and in love. Why should we do a Gottman workshop before we get married?

Start early! Get your relationship off to a healthy beginning and keep it healthy. The average couple waits six years before seeking help for marital problems (and keep in mind, half of all marriages that end do so in the first seven years). This means that the average couple lives with unhappiness for far too long, and we always advocate a position of prevention over intervention. Learning the skills that masters of relationships have taught us will improve your ability to build friendship, manage conflict, and create shared meaning in your partnership.

Q: Can I add The Art and Science of Love to my wedding registry?

Absolutely! If you are using The Knot or Amazon Wish List to manage your registry, you can add the workshop to your universal gift wish list. We’re biased, but we think this is the most important gift that you can list on your registry.

Q: Can I give the workshop as a wedding gift?

Yes. Contact us and we will help you put together your wedding gift.

Q: Where can I hear from a real couple about how the workshop helped them? 

Click here to read one real couple’s story, “15 Favorite Moments from our Gottman Weekend Workshop.”

Q: Do we have to share with the other couples?

No. There is no group work and no public disclosure of any kind at the in-person workshops. The information is presented to you in an interactive lecture format and you will work with your partner during the exercises. We provide plenty of room, so you don’t have to worry about the other couples overhearing you. And if you get stuck on an exercise, we have a team of Certified Gottman Therapists on hand to help you.

Q: We would prefer to get private therapy before we get married. Are there Certified Gottman Therapists who do pre-marital work?

Absolutely. You can find a Gottman-trained therapist in your area on the Gottman Referral Network.

Ellie Lisitsa is a staff writer at The Gottman Institute and a regular contributor to The Gottman Relationship Blog. Ellie is pursuing her B.A. in Psychology with an emphasis on Cognitive Dissonance at Reed College in Portland, Oregon.