Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we pick up where Zach Brittle left off in his Relationship Alphabet column, “N is for Newlyweds.” Actually, we pick up before “N is for Newlyweds,” and even before “M is for Marriage,” all the way back at “L is for Love” … or “like-like,” if you please!

In short, if you’re in a relationship, this post is for you – whether you’ve gotten to M or not.

If you’ve been enjoying the blog, but have been wishing to supplement your reading with something a little more hands-on, look no further! Please imagine us waving excitedly, possibly hopping up and down, and directing your attention to this…

Our Art & Science of Love weekend workshop, fully explained here, is appropriate and excellent for all couples, no matter what your relationship status – premarital, newly married, or long-term partners!

If you have a strong relationship, this workshop will provide you with insights and tools to make it a great one. If your relationship is distressed, this two-day workshop will provide a road map for repair.

If you live in Seattle, or would like to visit our beautiful city, you can register for one of the following dates. Workshop co-creators Drs. John and Julie Gottman will present on:

You can register for any of the Seattle workshops here.

Additional Art & Science of Love workshops are presented by Certified Gottman Therapists (CGTs) around the world. Check them out here.

Can’t make any of the live workshops? We offer The Art and Science of Love Home Workshop for purchase on our website.

Questions? We have compiled a list of Frequently Asked Questions about the workshop.

Q: We are happy and in love. Why should we attend a Gottman weekend workshop before we get married?

Start early! Get your relationship off to a healthy beginning and keep it healthy. The average couple waits six years before seeking help for marital problems (and keep in mind, half of all marriages that end do so in the first seven years). This means that the average couple lives with unhappiness for far too long, and we always advocate a position of prevention over intervention. Learning the skills that masters of relationships have taught us will improve your ability to build friendship, manage conflict, and create shared meaning in your partnership.

Q: Can I add The Art and Science of Love weekend workshop to my wedding registry?

Absolutely! If you are using The Knot or Amazon Wish List to manage your registry, you can add the workshop to your universal gift wish list. We’re biased, but we think this is the most important gift that you can list on your registry.

Q: Can I give the workshop as a wedding gift?

Yes, you can. Just call us at 888-523-9042 ext 1 or email us at couples@gottman.com, and we will help you put together your wedding gift.

Q: Where can I hear from real couples about how the workshop helped them? 

KIRO 7 News did a “Profiles” documentary on Drs. John and Julie Gottman in August 2010 and they interviewed real couples about their experience. Watch it now here. 60 Minutes Australia did a piece in May 2010 on the Love Lab and also interviewed real couples. See it here. We also filmed our own testimonial video after a workshop in 2012, which you can view on our YouTube channel here.

Q: We don’t want group therapy. Do we have to share with the other couples?

No. The workshop is an educational experience with exercises built into the curriculum to teach you the skills that the “masters” of relationships use. There is no group work and no public disclosure of any kind. The information is presented to you in an interactive lecture format by Drs. John and Julie Gottman, and you will work in a “nest” of just the two of you during the exercises. We provide plenty of room, so you don’t have to worry about the other couples overhearing you. And if you get stuck on an exercise, we have a team of CGTs on hand to help you through the exercise.

Q: We would prefer to get private therapy before we get married. Are there CGTs who do pre-marital work?

Yes. Just give us a call at 888-523-9042 ext 1 or email us at couples@gottman.com and we will give you a referral for a CGT in your area who does pre-marital work. You can also find a Gottman trained therapist near you by using The Gottman Referral Network here.

Click here to view more FAQs. For more information about The Art and Science of Love or to register, please visit our website here, call us at 888-523-9042 ext 1, or email us at couples@gottman.com.

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Ellie Lisitsa is a staff writer at The Gottman Institute and a regular contributor to The Gottman Relationship Blog. Ellie is pursuing her B.A. in Psychology with an emphasis on Cognitive Dissonance at Reed College in Portland, Oregon.