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“Small ‘T’ trauma” and Its Effect on Dating

Anna Aslanian

Want a fulfilling relationship? It all begins with knowing and healing the real you.

The Attunement Bridge: Healing From an Affair

Jenny TeGrotenhuis

Many factors contribute to recovery from a relational rupture.

Coping with Uncertainty During COVID-19: An International Gottman Trainer Shares Their Perspective

The Gottman Institute

How to Find a Couples Therapist Who Can Actually Help You

Kyle Benson

Tips to help you find a competent and effective couples therapist.

The Pursuer-Distancer Dynamic

Terry Gaspard

While all couples need autonomy and closeness, many partners struggle with the pursuer-distancer dance and feel chronically dissatisfied with their degree of intimacy. When the pattern of pursuing and distancing becomes ingrained, the behavior of one partner provokes and maintains the behavior of the other.

Introducing: The Small Things Often Podcast

Carla Sparks

“Successful long-term relationships are created through small words, small gestures, and small acts.”

Stepping Back to Save My Stepfamily

Real Relationships

All of the constructs I grew up with and believed I would carry on in my own family had to be thrown out the window. As much as I would like one, there is no guide on how to be a stepfamily—we are all too different.

My Sexual Fluidity Woke Me Up

Real Relationships

Judgments dehumanise and minimise the beautiful greyness of being human.

Reclaiming Our Stories From Trauma

Jenny TeGrotenhuis

Our past may have written the script, but we can write a new script for how we respond in the present.

How Coming Out Saved Our Marriage

Real Relationships

When Matt and Isaac got married, they were both still in the closet.

Gottman Love and Sexuality Glossary

The Gottman Institute

Our guide on combining forms used to express different types of love and relationships, and how you may see them used.

Here’s What Happened When I Went on Eight Therapist-Designed Dates

Logan Ury

We sent a dating coach and her boyfriend on eight dates designed by John and Julie Gottman.

A Happier Relationship Starts Today

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