The Sound Relationship House

Learn the seven essential building blocks of strong relationships as discovered by John Gottman’s research.

Manage Conflict: Moving Forward

Dr. Ellie Wilde

The real predictor of a relationship’s failure is a couple’s inability to manage conflict in a healthy manner and to move forward.

Manage Conflict: Identifying Your Triggers

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Working on understanding each other’s triggers is one of the most important things that you can do to avoid hurting one another.

Manage Conflict: The Aftermath of a Fight

Dr. Ellie Wilde

When you make repair attempts early, you can salvage the point of the conversation and create a more productive and positive outcome.

Manage Conflict: The Art of Compromise

Dr. Ellie Wilde

We’ve all been in the middle of an argument that we know we cannot win, understanding that our frustration has overwhelmed all sense of perspective.

Manage Conflict: Repair and De-Escalate

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Here are a few examples of phrases that you can use to help repair and de-escalate when conversations get tense.

Manage Conflict: Using Compromise as an Opportunity to Build Intimacy

Jennifer Bingaman

Dr. Gottman found that compromise is essential to managing conflict in relationships.

The Positive Perspective: More on the 5:1 Ratio

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Watch this video of Dr. John Gottman explaining the 5:1 ratio.

The Sound Relationship House: The Positive Perspective

Dr. Ellie Wilde

A fundamental principle of maintaining The Positive Perspective in your relationship is to let your partner influence you.

The Sound Relationship House: Turn Towards Instead of Away

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Playful bids and enthusiastic efforts to turn towards each other result in heightened levels of positivity during conflict discussions.

Love Quiz: Fondness and Admiration

Dr. Ellie Wilde

If life chipped away at your fondness and admiration for each other, the route to bringing them back begins with realizing how valuable they are.

The Sound Relationship House: Build Love Maps

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Love Maps help you develop greater personal insight and a more detailed understanding of each other’s life and world.

An Introduction to Emotional Bids and Trust

Dr. Ellie Wilde

Turning toward your partner's bids for emotional connection builds trust in your relationship.

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