Share Fondness and Admiration

Zach Brittle, LMHC  //  

Sharing fondness and admiration is the antidote to contempt and, more importantly, it increases the amount of affection and respect in a relationship.

Build Love Maps

Zach Brittle, LMHC  //  

Dr. Gottman’s term for getting to know your partner’s world is called Build Love Maps.

Create Shared Meaning: Suggestions from Dr. Gottman

Ellie Lisitsa  //  

Instead of our usual Weekend Homework Assignment, today we would like to conclude The Sound Relationship House Series by sharing suggestions for Creating Shared Meaning from Dr. Gottman's celebrated book, The Relationship Cure

Create Shared Meaning: Rituals for the Family

Ellie Lisitsa  //  

Creating shared meaning by establishing traditions and  rituals of connection is not just for couples – you can bring your whole family together in much the same way!

Create Shared Meaning: Examining Your Rituals

Ellie Lisitsa  //  

Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we are excited to introduce the final level in The Sound Relationship House Series: Create Shared Meaning.

Make Life Dreams Come True: Trusting Each Other

Ellie Lisitsa  //  

Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we’d like to end our discussion of Dreams Within Conflict by sharing Dr. Gottman’s words on trusting our process and offering support to each other.

Make Life Dreams Come True: Self-Discovery

Ellie Lisitsa  //  

Perpetual gridlocked problems between you and your partner often conceal underlying feelings and dreams that aren’t getting communicated.

Manage Conflict: Moving Forward

Ellie Lisitsa  //  

All couples face times of conflict in their relationship. With that said, it may come as a relief to hear the following: our research shows that the existence of conflict is not an omen portending the end of your relationship!

Manage Conflict: Triggers

Ellie Lisitsa  //  

Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we continue Monday’s discussion of processing fights and regrettable incidents with some tips on how to identify and understand what triggers you and your partner. 

Manage Conflict: The Aftermath of a Fight

Ellie Lisitsa  //  

Before we continue on with The Sound Relationship House Series and move to Make Life Dreams Come True, the level above Manage Conflict, we want to spend some time this week discussing what to do in the aftermath of a fight or regrettable incident.

Manage Conflict: The Art of Compromise

Ellie Lisitsa  //  

We’ve all been in the middle of an argument that we know we cannot win, understanding that our frustration has overwhelmed all sense of perspective.