The Four Horsemen

Dr. Gottman uses this metaphor to describe communication styles that can predict the end of a relationship.

April Eldemire

Learn about these negative patterns and how to keep them out of your relationship. ...

Ellie Lisitsa

Contempt to be the #1 predictor of divorce. What is contempt, and what makes this horseman the worst? ...

Ellie Lisitsa

When it comes to your problems as a couple, ditch defensiveness and learn how to accept responsibility for your role. Here's ...

Ellie Lisitsa

Learn how to implicitly communicate with your partner ...

Ellie Lisitsa

Part of taking care of yourself and your partner is learning how to avoid the use of criticism. ...

Zach Brittle, LMHC

"Hold your horses" and learn why contempt and criticism won't get you what you want. ...

Ellie Lisitsa

The last, but certainly not least, of the Four Horsemen is stonewalling. ...

Ellie Lisitsa

Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we would like to continue Monday's discussion on Horseman #3 Contempt.

Ellie Lisitsa

Contempt is the worst of the four horsemen. It is the number one predictor of divorce, but it can be defeated. ...

Ellie Lisitsa

Defensiveness is really a way of blaming your partner. ...

Ellie Lisitsa

The first of the Four Horsemen, and likely the most common, is criticism. ...

The Gottman Institute

Luckily, for every Horseman of the Apocalypse, there is an antidote. ...