Love Lasts When You Choose Each Other
Without trust, connection fades. But it doesn’t have to stay that way.
Did you know…
Trust is built in small, everyday moments where partners choose to connect rather than withdraw.
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- How to build a Sound Relationship House
- What to do when the destructive Four Horsemen enter your relationship
What does “choosing each other every day” mean?
It means making intentional decisions, big and small, that show your partner they matter to you. That you choose them over anyone else, and you want this relationship with them. From listening closely to sharing appreciation, these daily choices create emotional safety and strengthen your connection over time.
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How is trust built in small moments?
Trust isn’t created through grand gestures (although those can be nice!). It grows when partners turn towards each other in everyday interactions. When you listen to your partner, show up for them, and meet their needs, trust grows. They know they can count on you, and they know you care.
The Gottman Relationship Adviser can identify what you need help with in your relationship.
You can also learn clear strategies to identify and express your needs in the Feeling Seen and Heard Coach program.
What if we have grown apart? Can trust and commitment still be built?
Yes. Even if you feel distant now, trust and love can be restored. Small acts of kindness, honest communication, and paying attention to each other can help rebuild your foundation. Remember why you came together in the first place? Let that motivate you!
Can trust be rebuilt after it's been broken?
According to Gottman research, a healthy, satisfying sex life starts with emotional and physical safety, along with a strong sense of friendship and closeness. Without these foundations, intimacy can feel distant or unfulfilling.
How to Build Trust in Your Relationship
Dr. John Gottman and the research that shows trust is at the core of a healthy relationship
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