Intimacy

The Pursuer-Distancer Dynamic

Terry Gaspard

While all couples need autonomy and closeness, many partners struggle with the pursuer-distancer dance and feel chronically dissatisfied with their degree of intimacy. When the pattern of pursuing and distancing becomes ingrained, the behavior of one partner provokes and maintains the behavior of the other.

The Three Keys to Passion

Cheryl Fraser

What are the components of the passion triangle?

My Wife Wants to Open the Relationship. Is Our Marriage Over?

Cheryl Fraser

A sex therapist weighs in on open relationships and how to make monogamy hot again.

Before You Get Married, Watch This

Michael Fulwiler

Prince EA, a filmmaker, activist, and public speaker, created a beautiful video based on some of our core principles.

Turn Toward Your Child to Nurture Intimacy

The Gottman Institute

Intimacy is the glue that holds families together. It's what connects us over the years and across the miles.

Holding Hands with Loved Ones Creates Interpersonal Synchronization

The Gottman Institute

When the couple was sitting next to each other holding hands, the brainwave sync was the strongest. How incredible is that?

4 Key Issues for New Parents and How to Solve Them

April Eldemire

The two of you are a team, and while raising a child is a big challenge, you have each other’s backs.

Seriously. What’s the Point of Marriage?

Nate Bagley

The point of marriage is not happiness. The point of marriage is growth.

When “Yes” Really Means Yes: Have Great Sex with Affirmative Consent

Katelyn Ewen

Affirmative consent is a recipe for great (and safe) consensual sex.

5 Ways to Make Small Gestures Count in Your Marriage

Terry Gaspard

Give your partner the gift of love and appreciation in small ways every day.

Create Shared Meaning with a Culture Covenant

Vivian

Sit down with your spouse and ask each other questions about what kind of culture you want to create in your relationship.

Invest in Your Relationship: The Emotional Bank Account

The Gottman Institute

The difference between happy and unhappy couples is how they manage their Emotional Bank Account.

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