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Holiday Gifts That Connect: Can’t Buy Me Love!

Give gifts from the heart, not just the wallet.

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Nearly every book, article, or blog written about holiday stress invariably mentions the subject of money. Holiday spending can feel hollow and burdensome, but ultimately unavoidable. It’s an obligation.

Businesses use the holiday season to boost sales and barrage consumers with messages that stand in stark contrast to the values they purportedly defend. The corporations push the message that, in your most intimate relationships, money creates meaning and cash communicates care. Spending proves your love.

However, money is not the currency of love.

Instead of focusing on making financial withdrawals this year, work on making deposits into your emotional bank accounts. You can show friends and family how much you care by giving them your time, personal attention, and affection. Instead of shopping, spend free time connecting with others.

Give the gift of a great relationship this holiday season. Here are some examples to think about:

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Ellie Lisitsa is a former staff writer at The Gottman Institute. She holds a PhD in Clinical Psychology.

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