When Intimacy Fades
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So many couples struggle to talk about sex. Dr. John Gottman found that only 9% of couples who can’t comfortably talk about sex report being satisfied with their sex life.
This highlights a powerful truth: sexual satisfaction isn’t just about physical intimacy. It’s deeply tied to emotional safety and communication.
When partners avoid talking about sex, they often suppress their desires. Over time, this silence creates misunderstandings, unmet needs, and emotional distance.
On the other hand, couples who can discuss sex openly are more likely to feel connected, understood, and fulfilled both emotionally and physically.
The bottom line: couples who talk about their needs and desires build stronger bonds and have more satisfying sex lives.
If you’re struggling with this, you’re in the right place.
Did you know…
“We tiptoe around our needs instead of stating them outright because it feels safer.”
—Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman
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Why is it so hard to talk about sex with my partner?
Many people weren’t taught how to discuss sex openly, and it’s still stigmatized in many cultures all over the world. Often, fear of rejection or judgement makes it even more difficult. With the right tools, you can create safety and start communicating about intimacy in a healthy way.
You can learn more about working through intimacy issues with the Gottman Relationship Adviser.
What if my partner shuts down or avoids conversations about sex?
This is a common pattern. Gottman tools teach gentle ways to approach the topic and build emotional safety so you can invite your partner into deeper conversations without pressure or judgement.
Can talking about sex really improve our sex life?
Absolutely. Gottman research shows that couples who openly discuss their sexual needs and desires have stronger emotional bonds and more satisfying sex lives. Communication and building your emotional connection are the first steps!
How do we start these conversations without it feeling awkward?
Sometimes you just have to lean into the awkwardness! The more you discuss sex, the easier it gets. And it’s totally normal to feel uncomfortable at first. That’s why Gottman tools are full of prompts and exercises designed to make these talks feel natural, safe, and even fun.
What if my partner avoids talking about sex?
This is common. Many people feel shame, fear, or discomfort around sex and intimacy. Gottman tools are designed to make these discussions feel safe and natural over time.
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