Commitment

Zach Brittle, LMHC  //  

If trust is something that you feel, commitment is something that you do. It’s taking your partner with you wherever you go.

How to Build Trust in a Relationship

Zach Brittle, LMHC  //  

There are two pillars that make up the “weight bearing walls” of the Sound Relationship House. These two qualities form the basis for the overall stability of a relationship.

Create Shared Meaning

Zach Brittle, LMHC  //  

Dr. Gottman suggests that couples Create Shared Meaning through the use of rituals, roles, goals, and symbols.

Make Life Dreams Come True

Zach Brittle, LMHC  //  

Begin investing in the future of your relationship by exploring what it means to Make Life Dreams Come True.

Turn Towards Instead of Away

Zach Brittle, LMHC  //  

State your needs, be aware of bids for connection, and turn towards them.

Share Fondness and Admiration

Zach Brittle, LMHC  //  

Sharing fondness and admiration is the antidote to contempt and, more importantly, it increases the amount of affection and respect in a relationship.

Build Love Maps

Zach Brittle, LMHC  //  

Dr. Gottman’s term for getting to know your partner’s world is called Build Love Maps.

Building a Sound Relationship House

Zach Brittle, LMHC  //  

I’m really excited to shine a light on the early stages of a relationship with a new series we’re calling “New Construction.” Over the next few months, I’ll use this space to speak to how the Gottman body of research informs new relationships, specifically pre-marrieds and newlyweds.

Create Shared Meaning: Suggestions from Dr. Gottman

Ellie Lisitsa  //  

Instead of our usual Weekend Homework Assignment, today we would like to conclude The Sound Relationship House Series by sharing suggestions for Creating Shared Meaning from Dr. Gottman's celebrated book, The Relationship Cure

Create Shared Meaning: Rituals for the Family

Ellie Lisitsa  //  

Creating shared meaning by establishing traditions and  rituals of connection is not just for couples – you can bring your whole family together in much the same way!

Create Shared Meaning: Examining Your Rituals

Ellie Lisitsa  //  

Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we are excited to introduce the final level in The Sound Relationship House Series: Create Shared Meaning.

Make Life Dreams Come True: Trusting Each Other

Ellie Lisitsa  //  

Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we’d like to end our discussion of Dreams Within Conflict by sharing Dr. Gottman’s words on trusting our process and offering support to each other.