Z is for Zed

Zach Brittle, LMHC  //  

Here we are at Zed - the end of the alphabet. It’s been a pretty incredible experience working through these 26 topics and exploring a little bit of what I tend to think about relationships.

Y is for Yes

Zach Brittle, LMHC  //  

Yes is a word that does more than answer a question. It creates opportunity and invites possibility. 

X is for X-Rated

Zach Brittle, LMHC  //  

My first exposure to pornography was over 30 years ago. It was in the basement of my childhood home where my dad stored a dusty stack of Playboy magazines.

W is for Wednesday

Zach Brittle, LMHC  //  

What would you guess is the most common reason couples come into therapy? The lady who cuts my hair thinks it’s “affairs.” My neighbor thinks it’s “empty nest syndrome.” 

V is for Violence

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In case you missed it, October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. I’m not really sure how you could have missed it, however. 

U is for Understanding

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There are about a half-dozen primary sound bites that frame Gottman Method Couples Therapy. One is Small Things Often

T is for Turning

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I’ve already stated that Repair is my favorite concept in the Gottman lexicon. My second favorite concept is Turning.

S is for Sex

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Here are some thoughts on actual, real life lovemaking.

R is for Repair

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In relational terms, repair is less about fixing what is broken and more about getting back on track.

Q is for Questions

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I have to confess, when I opened up my column to your questions, I was really hoping to get a bunch of benign inquiries like: What’s your favorite novel?

P is for Problems

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John Gottman’s research revealed that about ⅔ of relationship problems are unsolvable. One of my favorite questions for couples is whether that statistic is discouraging orencouraging. 

O is for Opportunity

Zach Brittle, LMHC  //  

Whenever I work with pre-marital couples, we spend a fair bit of time pondering whatever a marriage actually is. Is it a social contract? A political statement?