The Four Horsemen Archives - The Gottman Institute

Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT // August 12, 2021

How can you tell if someone is right for you?

The Gottman Institute // July 15, 2021

Couples that divorce have a few things in common...

The Gottman Institute // January 25, 2021

Learn how to navigate conflict in a healthy way.

Taylor Irvine, M.Ed., Ed.S., LMHC // October 8, 2020

Research shows couples can move forward after an affair. But how?

Eva Van Prooyen // August 25, 2017

If a couple can revive their fondness and admiration for each other, they are more likely to approach conflict resolution as a team.

Ellie Lisitsa // March 5, 2014

Contempt to be the #1 predictor of divorce. What is contempt, and what makes this horseman the worst?

Ellie Lisitsa // February 28, 2014

When it comes to your problems as a couple, ditch defensiveness and learn how to accept responsibility for your role. Here's how.

Zach Brittle, LMHC // February 17, 2014

Defensiveness is a wicked game. But it’s winnable.

The Gottman Institute // February 14, 2014

Learn how to implicitly communicate with your partner

Ellie Lisitsa // February 12, 2014

Part of taking care of yourself and your partner is learning how to avoid the use of criticism.

Zach Brittle, LMHC // February 3, 2014

"Hold your horses" and learn why contempt and criticism won't get you what you want.

Ellie Lisitsa // May 20, 2013

The last, but certainly not least, of the Four Horsemen is stonewalling.