Geographic separation, whether it is for 6 weeks, 6 months, or longer, is inevitably difficult. The key to a successful deployment for any couple is to learn together all you can in order to prepare for your time apart.
Identifying what I needed helped release and transform vicarious trauma into post-traumatic growth.
Commitment doesn’t inoculate us against marriage atrophy. In fact, some would argue that it’s the cause of it. But it’s the thing that keeps us in and has us weather the droughts that are an inevitable part of a long marriage.
Our past may have written the script, but we can write a new script for how we respond in the present.
The Gottmans and Brené Brown give us a map—a macro perspective of the wilderness of our hearts, and the wildness of love.
Here are a few things I’ve learned about love and life over the last 23 years of marriage.
Our guide on combining forms used to express different types of love and relationships, and how you may see them used.
In his TEDx Talk, John Gottman explains how his scientific research has created a new understanding of love relationships.
A therapist leads wilderness retreats for couples.
In her TEDx Talk, Julie Schwartz Gottman explores how to create peace in the world using findings from studies on love and diplomacy.
A sex therapist weighs in on open relationships and how to make monogamy hot again.
We sent a dating coach and her boyfriend on eight dates designed by John and Julie Gottman.