The Pursuer-Distancer Dynamic

Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW  //  

While all couples need autonomy and closeness, many partners struggle with the pursuer-distancer dance and feel chronically dissatisfied with their degree of intimacy. When the pattern of pursuing and distancing becomes ingrained, the behavior of one partner provokes and maintains the behavior of the other.

How to Heal from Past Relationships

Stacy Hubbard, LMFT  //  

What role did the Four Horsemen, relationship phases, flooding, and perpetual problems play in your past relationships?

The Perfect Relationship

Jaime Spielmann  //  

Never underestimate the power of making a few small, simple changes within your relationship to develop the skills needed to make your love flourish for many years to come.

The Three Keys to Passion

Cheryl Fraser, Ph.D  //  

If I’m looking to build the ultimate passionate relationship, a love affair filled with joy, intensity, loyalty, and desire, a relationship that becomes deeper and sexier as time goes on, then I want to build that on a very strong foundation.

Top 10 Gottman Relationship Blog Posts of 2019

The Gottman Institute  //  

In 2019, we took a look at the things that challenge relationships, and ways to ultimately make the relationships we choose stronger.

How to Prepare Your Relationship for Military Deployment

Jonathan Shippey, LMFT  //  

Geographic separation, whether it is for 6 weeks, 6 months, or longer, is inevitably difficult. The key to a successful deployment for any couple is to learn together all you can in order to prepare for your time apart.

Weathering the Winter of Our Marriage

Kristen Manieri  //  

Commitment doesn’t inoculate us against marriage atrophy. In fact, some would argue that it’s the cause of it. But it’s the thing that keeps us in and has us weather the droughts that are an inevitable part of a long marriage.

Reclaiming Our Stories From Trauma

Jenny TeGrotenhuis, LMHC  //  

Our past may have written the script, but we can write a new script for how we respond in the present.