While all couples need autonomy and closeness, many partners struggle with the pursuer-distancer dance and feel chronically dissatisfied with their degree of intimacy. When the pattern of pursuing and distancing becomes ingrained, the behavior of one partner provokes and maintains the behavior of the other.
What role did the Four Horsemen, relationship phases, flooding, and perpetual problems play in your past relationships?
How two Certified Gottman Therapists created a follow-up workshop to The Art and Science of Love.
Never underestimate the power of making a few small, simple changes within your relationship to develop the skills needed to make your love flourish for many years to come.
If I’m looking to build the ultimate passionate relationship, a love affair filled with joy, intensity, loyalty, and desire, a relationship that becomes deeper and sexier as time goes on, then I want to build that on a very strong foundation.
In 2019, we took a look at the things that challenge relationships, and ways to ultimately make the relationships we choose stronger.
Geographic separation, whether it is for 6 weeks, 6 months, or longer, is inevitably difficult. The key to a successful deployment for any couple is to learn together all you can in order to prepare for your time apart.
Identifying what I needed helped release and transform vicarious trauma into post-traumatic growth.
Commitment doesn’t inoculate us against marriage atrophy. In fact, some would argue that it’s the cause of it. But it’s the thing that keeps us in and has us weather the droughts that are an inevitable part of a long marriage.
Our past may have written the script, but we can write a new script for how we respond in the present.
The Gottmans and Brené Brown give us a map—a macro perspective of the wilderness of our hearts, and the wildness of love.
Here are a few things I’ve learned about love and life over the last 23 years of marriage.