Emotionally Intelligent Couples

Emotional intelligence may be one of the most important building blocks to success in a committed relationship.

5 Ways to Make Small Gestures Count in Your Marriage

Terry Gaspard

Give your partner the gift of love and appreciation in small ways every day.

Enriching Your Marriage by Creating Shared Meaning

Terry Gaspard

Create daily or weekly rituals of connection will enable you build shared meaning.

Invest in Your Relationship: The Emotional Bank Account

The Gottman Institute

The difference between happy and unhappy couples is how they manage their Emotional Bank Account.

Emotional Safety is Necessary for Emotional Connection

The Gottman Institute

Emotional safety enables us the freedom to collaborate, dream, be wildly creative, share bold ideas, feel increased compassion, and express ourselves freely with one another.

Husbands Can Only Be Influential if They Accept Influence

Jeff Pincus

Being open to influence requires a man to let go of avoidant strategies like distancing, attacking, and defensiveness.

Reaching a Compromise: The Second Part of the State of the Union Meeting

Kyle Benson

The first step in problem-solving is to identify your core needs.

Understanding Each Other: The First Part of the State of The Union Meeting

Kyle Benson

Each partner will be given a time to speak and a time to listen as you work through the different stages of your disagreement.

Stop Trying to Fix Your Partner’s Feelings

Kyle Benson

Instead of trying to change or fix the feelings of the person you love, focus on connecting with them.

Understanding Must Precede Advice

Kyle Benson

Learn how to use conflict as an opportunity to understand and get to know each other better is a vital part of attunement.

Transforming Criticism into Wishes: A Recipe for Successful Conflict

Kyle Benson

For conflict conversations to succeed, you must state your feelings as neutrally as possible and transform any complaint about your partner into a positive need.

There Are Two Views to Every Conflict and Both Are Valid

Kyle Benson

You don't have to agree, but you do need to show respect for your partner's opinions.

How to Strengthen Your Relationship with State of the Union Meetings

Kyle Benson

When couples meet once a week for an hour, it drastically improves their relationship.

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