The Person Beside You: How Intimate Relationships Shape Our Lives
Life becomes more complex as we age, but the benefits that come from having secure connections continue through every phase of life.
The Gottman Institute's Posts
The Four Parenting Styles
Your emotional awareness dramatically influences your success and happiness in all walks of life, including family relationships.
New Year’s Relationship Resolutions
The New Year can be your opportunity to make resolutions for better communication and a healthier relationship.
Small Things Often: Ingredients for a Happy Relationship
We asked our followers to share some of the “small words, small gestures, and small acts” their partners do for them. Our hearts were so warmed by the responses, we’d love to share some of them with you.
Can a Relationship Have Too Much Negativity?
Learn the perfect ratio of positive to negative in your interactions as a couple
Two Good Reasons to Save Your Marriage
You'd be surprised what a good relationship can do for you
Drs. John and Julie Gottman on How Not to Ruin Your Relationship
Listen to the Gottmans discuss the big and small things you can do to have a happy relationship
Small Things Often: The Best Episodes of Season 4
Listen to the hand-picked favorites from season 4
The Right Way to Complain
Learn how to express your feelings without hurting your partner
Get Back on Track During Conflict
Turn arguments around and manage conflict with a few simple phrases.
How to Build Love Maps
What does it look like to stay curious about your partner?
Invest in Yourself for Relationship Growth
If you can’t keep it together, your relationship can’t either.
3 Ways to Invest in Your Relationship
Make deposits into the wealth of your relationship and see dividends in love.
The Most Popular Blog Posts of 2021
See the top articles from the blog this year
Win the Weekend with Zach and Laura
Take advantage of the time you have with your partner
Getting to Know You: Questions to Ask Your Dating Partner
Have a conversation that matters
Small Things Often: The Best Episodes of Season 3
Listen to the hand-picked favorites from season 3
‘Are We Headed for Divorce?’
Couples that divorce have a few things in common...
The Easiest Way to Improve Your Relationship
What's the one thing happy couples do the most?
Watch the Gottman Concept Corner on IGTV
Mental health experts explore the Gottman Method basics
3 Ways to Make a Better Bid for Connection
Take the guesswork out of connecting with your partner.
Taking Care of the Caretaker in Your Life
Show your love and support for the one who helps everyone else
Do Opposites Attract or Similarities?
Your partner doesn't always have to think like you... and that's a good thing.
4 Ways to Turn Towards Each Other as New Parents
Keep connecting with your partner after a new baby
Date Ideas and Other Ways to Improve Your Relationship
Your next date could change your relationship for the better.
Emotional Safety in Long-Distance Relationships
Close the distance between you by using the tools you have to connect.
4 Conflict Styles that Hurt Your Relationship
Learn how to navigate conflict in a healthy way.
Turn Your Relationship Goals Into Habits
Leave "relationship goals" behind and form healthy habits that you and your partner can practice every day.
Gifts from the Heart
Give your relationship gifts that keep on giving.
What is The Sound Relationship House?
This foundational theory of The Gottman Institute gives couples the tools they need to have a healthy secure relationship.
Rituals of Gratitude
Create rituals of connection around thankfulness using these four ideas.
Warm Weather Rituals of Connection: Ideas for Couples and Families
Here's a list of warm weather activities to try together!
25 Date Ideas You Can Try at Home and Long-Distance
Whether you're social distancing or quarantined together, during stressful and uncertain times, it's more important than ever to prioritize rituals of connection with your partner.
Gottman Relationship Recipes
Try these relationship recipes out at home—you probably already have all the ingredients you need!
Set Yourself Up for Success Before Taking The Art and Science of Love Online
Tips to help you and your partner get most out of your self-guided workshop experience.
Introducing: The Small Things Often Podcast
“Successful long-term relationships are created through small words, small gestures, and small acts.”
Top 10 Gottman Relationship Blog Posts of 2019
In 2019, we took a look at the things that challenge relationships, and ways to ultimately make the relationships we choose stronger.
Gottman Love and Sexuality Glossary
Our guide on combining forms used to express different types of love and relationships, and how you may see them used.
The Science of Love
In his TEDx Talk, John Gottman explains how his scientific research has created a new understanding of love relationships.
World Peace Starts at Home
In her TEDx Talk, Julie Schwartz Gottman explores how to create peace in the world using findings from studies on love and diplomacy.
July 2017
Read about all the exciting happenings at The Gottman Institute in July!
June 2017
Read about all the exciting happenings at The Gottman Institute in June!
May 2017
Read about all the exciting happenings at The Gottman Institute in May!
April 2017
Read about all the exciting happenings at The Gottman Institute in April!
January 2017
Check out what happened at The Gottman Institute in January!
November 2016
Check out what happened at The Gottman Institute in the month of November.
October 2016
Check out what happened at The Gottman Institute in October.
September 2016
Here's what's happening at The Gottman Institute in the month of September, including trainings, workshops, and new articles.
July 2016
Here is what's happening at The Gottman Institute this month including trainings and new blog articles.
June 2016
Here is what's happening at The Gottman Institute this month including trainings and new blog articles.
April 2016
See what's happening at The Gottman Institute
January 2016
See what's happening at The Gottman Institute this month, including new articles, trainings, and announcements.
December 2015
“Month in Review” is a feature on The Gottman Relationship Blog that gives you the opportunity to recap the news and events of the last month.
August 2015
This month we were featured in an 8,000 word essay from The Huffington Post, presented 16 couples workshops and professional trainings around the world, and Dr. John Gottman was named "the Einstein of love" by Psychology Today.
July 2015
July was another busy month at The Gottman Institute. We were featured by AARP and Yahoo Health, presented 14 couples workshops and professional trainings all over the world, and hosted a very successful Seven Principles Program Educator Training in Seattle, WA.
June 2015
June was an active month at The Gottman Institute. We were featured by Politico Magazine and The Washington Post, presented 21 couples workshops and professional trainings around the world, and released a teaser video for The 2015 Summit!
May 2015
May was another busy month at The Gottman Institute. We were featured by Oprah.com, Dr. John Gottman spoke to a sold out crowd at Town Hall Seattle, and the revised edition of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work reached #2 Best Seller in Marriage on Amazon.com in it's first week.
April 2015
April was an exciting month at The Gottman Institute. We were featured by The New York Times and Forbes, we launched a board game for couples, and we announced a completely revised and updated edition of The Seven Principles.
#AskGottman: Sex Answers
The Gottman Institute answers your questions about sex, lovemaking, and communication on this installment of #AskGottman.
8 Myths About Relationships
We'd like to separate the fact from the fiction and explode the eight most common myths about relationships.
The Top 10 Things that Happened at The Gottman Institute in 2014
2014 has been a great year at The Gottman Institute. What was your most memorable moment or experience with us this year?
Assignment: Turning Towards
When you honor and respect each other, you can appreciate different points of view.
Quiz: What Style of Parent are You?
Are you a Disapproving parent? A Dismissing parent? An Emotion Coaching parent?
Homework Assignment: Turn Towards Your Child
Ask parents what their favorite part of summer is and you’re likely to hear "having fun with the kids!"
Homework Assignment: How To Increase Emotional Attraction
See how the stress-reducing conversation helps build emotional attraction and bonds you closer together as a couple.
Homework Assignment: Intimate Conversation
At the end of yesterday's poston the 3 Skills (and 1 Rule!) of Intimate Conversation, we promised to follow-up with your Weekend Homework Assignment.
Homework Assignment: Have Great Sex
It had been a while since we last discussed sex on the blog, and as Dr. Gottman recommends making a habit of talking about the subject, we decided it was time to sharethis quizwith you on Wednesday!
Love Quiz: What Is The State of Your Sex Life?
Take the following quiz to assess the quality of sex, romance, and passion in your relationship.
Homework Assignment: Six Seconds to Happy Couplehood!
Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we share an article written by Theo Pauline Nestor of Match.com that offers to help you "find out how just a few minutes a day doing little things differently — like saying 'hello,' 'goodbye' and sharing a kiss — can change the course of your relationship for the better."
Homework Assignment: The Gottman Island Survival Game
Many couples fail to make headway on solvable problems because they don't know how to compromise. To learn compromise, you must accept influence.
Homework Assignment: Have A Bit Of Fun
Taking joy and laughter seriously
Using Humor to Build Relationships
Humor is pretty complicated, and if we want to use it in a way that builds and maintains healthy, loving, and strong connections, we must be mindful.
More on Humor and Being Human
Since the dawn of the Digital Age, humans have been puzzling over their electronic devices and asking themselves basic questions, like:
Homework Assignment: Q&A and Review
This Friday on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we reach the end of our series on The Four Horsemen and Self Care!
Toddlers, Poop Detectors, and Choosing Your Battles
In this playful offering, authors James and Audora Burg hone in on a compelling connection: choosing your battles in caring for your toddler and caring for your marriage.
Friendship and Self-Care
How are friendship and self-care connected?
Homework Assignment: Building a Culture of Appreciation
Small things often go a long way for validating your partner.
What Healthy Couples Know About Handling Conflict
Learn how to implicitly communicate with your partner
Support Each Other’s Dreams
Do you keep your partner's life dreams in mind?
Self-Care: Responsibility and Review
What makes for a happy, fulfilled relationship?
“An Attitude of Gratitude” and the 5:1 Ratio During The Holidays
Change your outlook on the season with a spirit of thankfulness.
Bringing Baby Home: Interview
Find out more about the Bringing Baby Home training.
Summer Romance: Love Maps
As promised in last week’s posting on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we continue ourSummer Romance blog series today with an exercise to help you build connection with your partner by updating your "Love Maps."
The Four Horsemen: The Antidotes
Luckily, for every Horseman of the Apocalypse, there is an antidote.
Spring Clean Your Marriage
Spring clean your marriage with these relational tips that will clear out the cobwebs and refresh the love and romance.
The Research: The Still Face Experiment
The Still Face Experiment illustrates the power of emotion coaching and the importance of turning toward your child's bids for connection.
The Research: Patterns of Marital Conflict Predict Children’s Internalizing and Externalizing Behaviors
Parents whose conflicts are characterized by mutual hostility often produce children who are unable to wait their turn.
Announcement: The Research
Here are answers to Frequently Asked Questions about Dr. Gottman’s research on couples.
Love Quiz: Do You and Your Partner Accept Each Other’s Influence?
Influencing within a relationship helps build a positive perspective.
Managing Stress from Within Your Relationship
Reduce stress in your relationship by reassessing the state of your partnership.
Avoiding Loss Aversion In Arguments
Loss aversion is what happens when partners invest so much into their disputes that neither one can stand the thought of losing.
Make Life Dreams Come True: How to Support Your Partner
To develop plans that work for both of you, make sure that you explore all of your options and that the needs of both you and your partner are met.