The Science of Love

In his TEDx Talk, John Gottman explains how his scientific research has created a new understanding of love relationships.

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Over four decades ago, Dr. John Gottman set out to understand love through the lens of science.

He measured the behavior, perception, and physiology of couples over time in his research lab (dubbed the “Love Lab”) at the University of Washington. Using the data collected, he was able to create equations for love and discern the mathematical dynamics of a relationship.

Surprisingly, even to him, he was able to predict with over 90% accuracy whether couples would stay together or break up.

In his TEDx Talk, The Science of Love, Gottman explains how his scientific research has created a new understanding of love relationships.

He describes his love equations, and the magic trio of calm, trust, and commitment.

This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community.

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Publish Date: May 22, 2019

Last Updated: May 4, 2026

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