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We’ve all experienced what John Gottman refers to as physiological “flooding,” or Diffuse Physiological Arousal (DPA). It’s the “fight or flight” response that kicks in when we’re upset and our heart rate exceeds 100 BPM.

If left unchecked, our research has shown that flooding can lead to either escalated conflict or stonewalling and, ultimately, emotional disengagement. So what do you do when your clients are flooded in front of you?

Join our Gottman Pro Newsletter mailing list and we’ll send you free resources on how to address flooding in your practice, including:

  • Conversations: Identifying and Treating Flooding: A 30-minute webinar with Carrie Cole, Certified Gottman Therapist and Research Director of The Gottman Institute, teaching you how to identify flooding, explain its significance to clients, and coach couples to deal with flooding on their own.
  • The Five Secrets to Calming Yourself: A downloadable handout showing you how to effectively calm a flooded person, using a relaxation exercise adapted from our bestselling Gottman Relationship Guides.

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