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The Four Horsemen

Dr. Gottman uses this metaphor to describe communication styles that can predict the end of a relationship.

Stonewalling vs. The Silent Treatment

Stonewalling vs The Silent Treatment: Are They The Same?

Kari Rusnak

What’s the difference between stonewalling and the silent treatment? ...

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D is for Defensiveness

Zach Brittle, LMHC

Defensiveness is a wicked game. But it’s winnable. ...

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Help! Someone Told Me I’m Stonewalling

Laura Silverstein

Stonewalling is dramatically misunderstood. It is not the icy indifference that it might appear to be on the surface. ...

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Brene Brown Atlas of the Heart

Brené Brown’s Atlas of the Heart: Defensiveness and Flooding

The Gottman Institute

From her latest book, Brené discusses these core Gottman Method concepts ...

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‘It’s Not My Fault!’: Why Defensiveness is Damaging

Cheryl Fraser

Don’t get defensive. Do this instead. ...

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What Causes Contempt in Relationships

What Causes Contempt in Relationships

Jinashree Rajendrakumar

How to spot contempt and what to do when it shows up ...

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Types of Criticism

Types of Criticism: Expressing Concern or Complaint without Harm

Kimberly Panganiban

Learn how to identify the first of the four horsemen ...

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Red Flag/Green Flag: What to Look for When You’re Dating

Elizabeth Earnshaw

How can you tell if someone is right for you? ...

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‘Are We Headed for Divorce?’

The Gottman Institute

Couples that divorce have a few things in common... ...

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conflict styles

4 Conflict Styles that Hurt Your Relationship

Jennifer Scott

Learn how to navigate conflict in a healthy way. ...

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Rebuilding After Infidelity

Taylor Irvine

Research shows couples can move forward after an affair. But how? ...

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Contempt is the predictor of divorce

This One Thing is the Biggest Predictor of Divorce

Eva Van Prooyen

If a couple can revive their fondness and admiration for each other, they are more likely to approach conflict resolution as ...

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