Real Relationships

Stories from real people about living and loving in the world today.

I’m a Therapist, But I’m Also a Human

Real Relationships

Under the guise of “healthy communication,” I was actually destroying my own relationship.

Stepping Back to Save My Stepfamily

Real Relationships

All of the constructs I grew up with and believed I would carry on in my own family had to be thrown out the window. As much as I would like one, there is no guide on how to be a stepfamily—we are all too different.

I Met The Woman of My Dreams, She Lives 2,400 Miles Away

Real Relationships

Thanks to a combination of sobriety, introspection, therapy, and Kate’s support, I’m feeling more comfortable showing up authentically both inside and outside this relationship.

I Found Myself When I Lost My Ideology

Real Relationships

Everything I thought I knew about myself, my faith, my friendships, and my family was put on tilt when I decided to be true to who I am and pursue that woman.

My Marriage Beyond the Binary

Real Relationships

Sometimes, we are a hetero couple, sometimes a gay couple,.

I Fell in Love With My Best Friend

Real Relationships

I found myself feeling like there was a different kind of connection forming, beyond best friendship. Could this be?

I’d Sworn off Dating “Allies,” Until I Met a Real One

Real Relationships

He may never understand exactly how I’m feeling or what it’s like to be in my shoes, but he knows when to speak up and when to stay quiet—to listen and learn from me and others with different experiences.

Dating a Man 16 Years Younger Forced Me to Grow Up

Real Relationships

The deeper I fell, the more fearful I became, and the more I looked for imperfections.

My Sexual Fluidity Woke Me Up

Real Relationships

Judgments dehumanise and minimise the beautiful greyness of being human.

I Got Married in Jeans but Our Marriage Got Serious

Real Relationships

Marriage was a fancy house we hadn’t been invited into and we wanted to dance on the sofa in muddy shoes.

My Husband Died—Our Relationship Didn’t

Real Relationships

I am grateful for the independent self that was fostered in our marriage as I carve a lone way forward through this surreal new world.

I’m the Polyamorist Next Door

Real Relationships

How can a life that feels so peaceful and content to me be so nauseating to others?

A Happier Relationship Starts Today

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