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Inside the Love Lab

Ellie Lisitsa

Dr. Gottman’s research on trust is groundbreaking. Widely recognized as the world’s foremost researcher on marriage and relationships, his intuition and natural ease with people are not his only gifts.

The Love Lab

Ellie Lisitsa

Dr. Gottman opens his long-awaited book, What Makes Love Last?, with an unsettling anecdote about trust: suspecting his wife of cheating, one man crept outside in the morning before he left for work to draw chalk marks on his wife's rear tires.

Integrating Gottman Method into Premarital Counseling

Laura Heck

My practice as a Marriage and Family Therapist is focused on proactively transforming nearly newlyweds into competent love birds by teaching The Gottman Method

Emotion Coaching Step 5: Helping the Child Problem Solve and Setting Limits

Ellie Lisitsa

Emotion coaching not only teaches children how to manage big feelings, but it also helps them solve problems on their own.

Emotion Coaching Step 4: Helping Your Child to Find Words For Their Emotions

Ellie Lisitsa

Emotion Coaching system is one in which you have the opportunity to help your child through difficult moments that is astoundingly useful for them.

Emotion Coaching Step 3: Treating a Child’s Feelings with Empathetic Listening and Validation

Ellie Lisitsa

Drs. John and Julie Gottman suggest a combination of attentiveness, offerings of simple observations, and validation of your child's emotions in difficult moments.

Emotion Coaching Step 2: Seeing Expressions of Emotion as Opportunities for Teaching and Intimacy

Ellie Lisitsa

You can work through tough emotions instead of trying to "fix" them.

Emotion Coaching Step 1: Empathy

Ellie Lisitsa

Use Emotion Coaching and empathy in your conversations with your child, and see the differences it makes in difficult moments.

An Introduction to Emotion Coaching

Ellie Lisitsa

Learn how to help your children navigate their feelings through being an emotion coaching parent.

Parenting as Your Kids Grow Up

Ellie Lisitsa

Managing conflict well and being your child's emotion coach are just a few effective parenting tips from the Gottmans.

Parenting: Avoiding Relationship Meltdowns

Ellie Lisitsa

Here are ways to keep your relationship going strong once a newborn arrives.

Make Life Dreams Come True: How to Support Your Partner

The Gottman Institute

To develop plans that work for both of you, make sure that you explore all of your options and that the needs of both you and your partner are met.