David and Constantino Khalaf

Contributors

The Khalafs are the authors of Modern Kinship: A Queer Guide to Christian Marriage, forthcoming from Westminster John Knox Press in January 2019. They have been writing together since their engagement to share their journey as a Christian same-sex couple and encourage others. Their faith brought them together and remains the cornerstone of their marriage. They live in Portland, Oregon, where they spend most of their time drinking tea and coffee, attempting to eat healthy, and occasionally sipping whisky.

David and Constantino 's Posts

Insights on Same-Sex Marriage from Julie Gottman

Dr. Julie Gottman performed the world’s first controlled study on children being raised in the homes of lesbian moms. ...

A Vacation Survival Guide for Couples

David and Constantino Khalaf

If you haven't travelled together as a couple, do it as soon as possible. ...

It’s Okay to Go to Bed Angry

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You can love better tomorrow, even if it’s difficult today. ...

Why LGBTQ Marriages Need Pride

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Pride, properly understood, is an essential element to the success of our marriages in the face of external conflict. ...

Healthy Dependence as a Path Toward Healthy Relationships

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When David is tempted to say, “I’ll do it myself!” he reminds himself to ask the question, “How can we do ...

Create Shared Meaning with a Culture Covenant

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Sit down with your spouse and ask each other questions about what kind of culture you want to create in your ...

Surround Yourself With Healthy Couples

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Whenever we find ourselves falling into cruise control, we’re reminded that even the best relationships require regular maintenance. ...

Letting Your Spouse Make Mistakes

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Even when you disagree, rallying behind your spouse’s decision and facing the consequences together makes you a stronger team. ...

Turning Toward Your Partner as an Anchor

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Turning toward each other goes beyond accepting each other’s bids. ...

Let’s Have an Honest Conversation About Sex

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Sex requires vulnerability and honest communication. ...

To the Couple With the Same Dreams but Different Timelines

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Dreams transform with time, and we have to be willing to adapt along with them. ...

4 Ways to Stay Connected During Life Transitions

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Here's how to stay connected when our minds are preoccupied with our own stresses. ...

Emotion Coaching Isn’t Just for Children

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By being mindful of each other’s feelings, we’ve been able to use Emotion Coaching in our relationship to become more emotionally ...

What Straight Husbands Can Learn From Gay Husbands

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According to Dr. Gottman, straight couples may have a lot to learn from gay and lesbian relationships. ...

The Dance Between Intimacy and Independence in Marriage

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Potential for conflict arises when spouses fall on different points of the spectrum in terms of their needs. ...